Parents in God’s Plan
By Nate Richardson
A Member of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints
Available free at RichardsonStudies.com
Table of Contents
Surely one of the things most poignant on the mind of an ‘empty nester’ parent is simply, ‘when will I see my children’s faces again?’ If today is that day, then sweet is this day.
Fear not to “lose” a child upon their aging and moving out. This fallen world has many difficulties which will not be present for long, and all the delightful charms, the beauty, the pleasantness will only increase as they age, until they reach the statues of Christ, fully charming, delightful, endlessly kind, and forever near you.
You’ll spend what time you can with them as you develop love for them, but this life was never meant to be enough time together. This life was designed to be but a moment in the span of eternity, the never-ending legacy.
And your memories will be, as Alma teaches, fully restored in the resurrection when we stand before God. Oh how the associations with loved ones will be stronger when we can remember all our interactions! Any sad times will pass, and the repentant souls will be purified of all sin, and stand together in the kingdom of God forever, will a fullness of joy which can only be found in continued association.
Further, the parenting business is the stuff of divinity. It’s the day to day of the Gods. Doesn’t God ask us to address him by his familial relation to us, namely that of Father? The lifestyle of the exalted is centered on upbringing more generations of lovely intelligent beings, and rejoicing with them in the increasing opportunities and glory that become theirs!
When it comes to parenting, eternally speaking, and that’s what kind of speaking is important, there are only positives, no negatives. Being a righteous parent (meaning you keep repenting when you detect flaws in your methods) brings eternal joy. Don’t shy away from parenting because of potential difficulties.
Even if your children stray, wait, and see, in the next life, even if they have chosen a lower kingdom, they will still ever revere you as their parent who gave their life for them. Much of the nonsense we deal with in this life will dissipate in that to come. Further, there remain many trying times ahead to push us all toward the kingdom of God, which is a truth to shower God with thanks for.
Remember: there is no such thing as an empty nester in the highest celestial kingdom of God! This alone inspires us to set aside every sin, and come unto Christ rejoicing! To forever look into these lovely little faces! To stand by them as they mature to become like unto yourself! This is life eternal, this is to know God and Christ whom he hath sent.
We should expect great things of young people. Our society has become much too permissive and indulgent in our parenting. All children have different gifts and personalities, and parents should help those children to excel, and not shun the work that it will require for them to master themselves. The age of adulthood and responsibility is continuously pushed back. I used to be marked by the onset of puberty. Then it was 18. Now it’s legally 18, but a new stage of adult transition has been coined for the age of 18-25. Then they say, ‘ok by 30 it’s time man’, and so on.
Lets take a look at what young people are capable of!
-Joseph Smith had a section of the bone in his leg removed without anesthetics. He was also sincere enough to seek deeply for correct religion at age 14, including many hours studying the bible, and when the revelation did come to him, that great first vision, he endured much persecution from the religious leaders of his day, still at the young age of 15. Around age 23, he translated the Book of Mormon in about the span of 1 semester’s time.
-Joan of Arc was having visions at a very young age, and was a martyr at age 18.
-Some of the great composers were writing better music in their teens and preteen years than other great musicians could at the height of their careers.
-Several modern prophets have spoken of reading The Book of Mormon from cover to cover at a very young age, such as 8 years.
-Joseph F Smith was a full time missionary at age 16, and an Apostle in his late 20’s.
-Listen to Mozart’s story, including what he played at age 6, and what he composed at age 8, etc. https://youtu.be/Dau-mKCGKXI ; he composed first piece at age 5; age 6 toured Europe; age 10 international fame; age 11 composed his first opera
-Howard W Hunter played 7 instruments competently when a teenager. (see Presidents of the Church book by Truman G Madsen).
-Joseph Fielding Smith speaking of his father Joseph F. Smith, he said “My father never had time to be a boy.” (p58 of In The Company of Prophets by Arthur Haycock). He had driven an ox team across the plains with his mother when he was just a boy, at age fifteen, orphaned, he was sent on a mission to Hawaii where he served for four and a half years.
-When a 12-Year-Old Plays Better Than You (Two Set Violin) https://youtu.be/yq08X_8BI8c
-Teen (Tim Doner) speaks 20 languages: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Km9-DiFaxpU
-There are a series of Ted Talks particularly by teens called “Tedx Teen”.
-Here is a short presentation showing that the idea of adolescence is a new idea; it used to be that children would take on maturity at a younger age, and use the teen years for preparation of adult roles, but now that era is largely one of post-poning maturity. “UnHoly Hollywood 3 – This is Why They Call It Programming” https://youtu.be/25llo_ol3ns
-Thomas S Monson was a bishop at age 22.
A parent reveals the keys of the mysteries of life eternity and the universe to its children. Mankind wanders, and finds wisdom and knowledge, wishing he would have had it earlier. It is his duty to pass that information on with clarity and great persuasion and love and fun, so his child will receive it. Let the parent also not lose his temper, for the scripture says that in such a case, the child loses confidence in the parent.
Our father in heaven is trying to reveal truth to us. May we be parents of virtue who clearly teach all things to their children. May we emulate father in heaven (and that always means emulate his equal companion whom is our Mother in Heaven).
Elder Maxwell said that to those who ha e eyes to see and wars to hear, it is clear that Father in Heaven and Jesus Christ are revealing the secrets of the universe.
President Nelson when first having become the President of the church said in his first conference address that he was impressed by how clearly the Lord reveals his will for his people.
-“There is not a young man in our community who would not be willing to travel from here to England to be married right, if he understood things as they are; there is not a young woman in our community, who loves the gospel and wishes its blessings, that would be married in any other way; they would live unmarried until they could be married as they should be, if they lived until they were as old as Sarah before she had Isaac born to her. Many of our brethren have married off their children without taking this into consideration, and thinking it a matter of little of importance. I wish we all understood this in the light in which heaven understands it.” (Brigham Young, JD 11:118, see JD 12:97)
-“Child rearing is so individualistic. Every child is different and unique. What works with one may not work with another” (President James E. Faust, 1990, November, “The greatest challenge in the world—Good parenting,” Ensign, 20(11), 34).
-the company of parents is one of the greatest blessings of life -JS teachings
-remember how many hours they spent worrying over us in our cradles when we were sick, and be thus mindful of their feelings in their old age so they don’t go down to their grave in sorrow -JS teachings
-JS last words to his mother “God bless you mother” -JS teachings.
-Les Misérables Jean Val Jean saves the boy his daughter loves for her sake.
See also the research essay some peers and I wrote at BYU earlier in this text, “Effects of Family of Origin on an Individual’s Attachment Preferences” which demonstrates that those from larger sibling groups are more prone to prefer family relationships to friend relationships.
Note: These are generalizations. Follow the spirit regarding your family size and know that you can create a Zion environment for your children no matter how many of them there are as you turn to God for guidance. I believe, generally speaking, child development is more wholesome when siblings, and even what we call ‘large’ numbers of siblings, are together in a home when compared to single child or small sibling groups. Here are some of my reasons for this conviction.
To have friends. Often there aren’t many children around to be friends with, having siblings solves that problem. Further, adults have a hard time having close friendships, and siblings give a great opportunity to have long term close friendships. The celestial kingdom of God will be more greatly desired when the children experience the heaven pre-show in the home. Home is a prototype of what heaven is. Prophets have said that heaven is the extension of the ideal home. Surely, we would picture heaven as a place where children have many companions their age with whom to pleasantly spend their time. They can look back on their childhood and say, “that was fun, I have so many memories of happy times at home.” This will greatly motivate them to make choices which will enable them to the eventual home of the celestial kingdom, after which the home they were reared in was patterned. These high doses of cooperative play will give the kids a lifelong sense of optimism and gratitude for life.
To increase sensory stimulus. Children will learn to speak faster as they hear others speaking more constantly throughout the day. This rapid growth will transfer to other areas such as reading and athletics as well. The children will serve as each other’s tutors, highly available tutors, to assist in one on one learning through the years.
Increase the odds that your personality will match one of your siblings’. A boy and a girl can get along in many things, but some things boys just enjoy differently than girls. Further, 2 boys can be of a very different temperament. One boy could like throwing a ball, the other could like playing video games, and thus even though there are 2 people, they often spend time alone. If you have more siblings, you’ll likely find among them people you quite enjoy. The athletic child will have someone to spar with, the thinking child will have someone to philosophize with, the lass with have someone to play school with, or to play dolls with, or to swing with. All children can get along now and then, but the joy of having more personality types in the group brings much satisfaction.
Have alternative sibling role models. If one of your older siblings choses the dark side, you can likely have a different older sibling who chooses the light. Hopefully all your siblings will turn out to be good citizens in this world and the kingdom of God, but if not, the lad can still have someone other than a parent as a positive role model. Bach was the youngest of 8, and came from a very musical family. It is said that they composed and played for one another.
Siblings hold each other accountable. If a single child or a child of 1 or 2 siblings is doing devious things in school or the community or the home, he can often get away with it by bribing the other siblings or being secretive. But when there are many siblings, there are many eyes, and they can help each other be accountable. A most destructive thing is when a child feels unwatched by loved ones, and thus allows themselves to do things which they would not do in front of family. Yes, we all have times alone and we must all pass the test of doing what is right when no one is watching, but children often need extra help in these regards. Though we see a rare exception with Joseph in Egypt, it is rare for all siblings in a large group to conspire together to some evil without a few of them deflecting and reporting the behaviors to the parents or other authority figures.
To avoid negative peer pressure. It isn’t being overly sheltering to provide your kids solid alternatives to potentially negative community influences. After all, the Savior did say “stand in holy places and be not moved”, and “cast not your pearls before swine”. When he said, “be in the world but not of the world”, this doesn’t mean to throw our kids to the wolves without refuge. When there aren’t many people that would be a positive influence, it’s ok to not be a close friend to negative influences, because you’ll always have your siblings as your close friends. There is so much good fun that we don’t need to bother with the bad fun, and siblings can support each other in that because they have been shown the healthy resources from their parents, and they pass those beautiful traditions and preferences and joys onto the younger siblings. Siblings can support each other as they have similar goals of temple attendance, missionary service, and ultimate residence in the celestial kingdom of God.
To have people who are taught the same standards as you. Your parents will teach the same set of standards to you, so you won’t have to challenge each other’s’ standards. Siblings creates a safe scenario, on this topic, for sleepovers without dangerous situations. Often kids first experiment with drugs, pornography, immorality, and other illicit activities in the late hours of the night with their friends. The night can be a fun time and certainly a time you can spend with friends whom aren’t family at times but having the regular friendship of your siblings allows you to not be envious of the kids who spend most every night partying with their friends. To spend all nights thus is not healthy. There is a lot of room for joy and celebration when there are many siblings.
To refine your character flaws. A single child will never learn how to not settle arguments, how to negotiate in play etc. to the extent which a child of siblings will. The child without siblings can leave a friendship if it is bothersome, but a child with siblings must learn the deep forgiveness required to go on living with someone with whom you sometimes get in arguments with. The child who must frequently live amongst others his age will need to say “I’m sorry” often, and “I forgive you” often. He will learn that he can’t always get what he wants for a meal or a chore or a toy, and that he must learn to mutually persuade others like himself rather than demand some gift. He will learn the divine skill of mercy, as he will frequently be required to administer it to his peers.
To gain compassion for others. A sibling will often be put in a position to care for babies, etc. A person can learn the lessons of serving others as they are repeatedly called on to do so in the home.
To become a great teacher. Having siblings means daily doing homework together and helping each other understand concepts in study and play. Little sessions of play time with children not of your family hardly compare to the great teaching which takes place day after day in the home.
To allow the children to play under the supervision of parents. Often children without siblings want to go off and play elsewhere for long amounts of time on a regular basis. If a child has siblings with whom they can play, they can be happy with less frequent playtime outside of the supervision of the parent. It’s hard to know the standards that will be taught to your children when they are at someone else’s home.
Have peers for homeschool! Homeschool is an excellent to raise faithful and educated children and having peers in the homeschool makes everything more exciting. You don’t have to worry about the negative teaching or negative peer pressure found in public schools as you have a group to learn with and from each other in your home. Homeschool is not right for everyone, but many will find this to be a mighty tool in Zion.
Have someone to do chores with. Children will find more joy in doing household chores and duties if they have other children their age to do those chores with. They can encourage each other and teach each other how to do the tasks. They can look forward to the reward of playtime together as they accomplish their tasks, thus motivating them to complete them faster.
Learn management and leadership. An older sibling, or one of the same age who has a current assignment as a leader for the day or for the chore or something, will learn how to motivate others to work, how to measure others’ work, how to appropriately chastise others for not doing their duties, etc.
Well-rounded. President Benson speaks of the well-known wisdom that children who come from larger families are often more well-rounded.
Playmates. Parents aren’t always available or interested in constantly playing children’s games, so children have each other to entertain.
Parents of large sibling groups have developed more skills in parenting and are less likely to be overly exacting of the children, and less likely to be too enabling of the children. They don’t feel pressure to spoil the child with too much material means because the children are happy playing with each other and spend less time thinking for alternative routes to find joy, such as material/financial outlets. The parent of many siblings will see the wisdom in bringing up well rounded children rather than thinking it necessary to make their one child, their ‘one shot at greatness’, to be some superstar to carry on the glory of their name. Yes, a parent will help each child to be their best, but the parent who has become well rounded by dealing intimately with the many different personalities of different children will help the children to be well rounded also. The parent who has seen various personalities in her children can better discern the personality of her children and support them in their differences instead of trying to mold the child to be a copy of themselves, or a copy of their other sibling, or of some other supposed role model child.
A large family is a small government. It is a place where everyone has responsibilities. The amount of messes that are made are such that the cleaning cannot and should not be expected to all be done by the parents both for the parents’ sake and for the sake of the proper development of the child. Thus, the children will learn to work and cooperate more effectively than the children of small households.
It worked for these guys: George Albert Smith was from a family of 11 children. One of the leading protestant reformers was from a family of 12 children. Many prophets today express wishes that they could have had more than they do. President Nelson had 9, and speaks of how glad he is that he didn’t wait until he could reasonably afford them, as he would be missing half of them. Bach was the youngest of 8. Jacob had 12 (ok they had lots of problems but from them came great things). Joseph Smith had 11. Brigham Young had 56. Bach had 12(?). Tyndale(?) was a child of a very large family. The list could go on.
-A few others I’ve heard since writing this list from an Islamic feminist from a family of 11 children who speaks in favor of large sibling groups (What Islam really says about women | Alaa Murabit
-learn of power structures
-learn of alliances
-talk fast or say less since will get cut off
-have to ask in the right way to get what you want
-have to learn how to keep the peace
This essay focuses on the benefits of large sibling groups for the children. An additional list could be written of the benefits for parents when it comes to having a large posterity. First and foremost of these would be the joy of posterity and the blessings in the kingdom of God for raising them. Even though parenting is rewarding in this life, it will be even more rewarding in the life to come with the weaknesses of the flesh are taken away, and we receive strong bodies and minds which aren’t subject to temptation and weakness. Then our children will forever thank and praise us for the services we have rendered them, and they will assist us in building our kingdoms forever. As your children grow to become chiefs themselves, the growth of their kingdoms will automatically build your kingdom. God is at the head, and all the accomplishments of his children are also attributed to him. So it will be when we become Gods. Some more practical benefits for the parent in having many children are tax breaks, built in babysitters, people to help clean the house, people to help tutor your younglings on reading and other skills, and the children having others to play with them instead of constantly nagging you to play. In the Doctrine and Covenants, Jesus Christ tells us that the more souls we bring to God, the more joy we will have: “Wherefore, you are called to cry repentance unto this people. And if it so be that you should labor all your days in crying repentance unto this people, and bring, save it be one soul unto me, how great shall be your joy with him in the kingdom of my Father! And now, if your joy will be great with one soul that you have brought unto me into the kingdom of my Father, how great will be your joy if you should bring many souls unto me!” (D&C 18:14-16)
Any parent knows that becoming a parent is a new heaven and a new earth, so to speak. Everything changes. Who you thought you were is put to the test. Turning away from the temptation to be angry is perhaps the great trial of parenting.
– “He that is slow to anger is better than the mighty; and he that ruleth his spirit than he that taketh a city” (Proverbs 16:32)
-“Understanding the connection between agency and anger is the first step in eliminating it from our lives. We can choose not to become angry. And we can make that choice today, right now: “I will never become angry again.” Ponder this resolution.” (“Agency and Anger” by Lynn G Robins of the Seventy, General Conference April 1998, https://www.lds.org/general-conference/1998/04/agency-and-anger?lang=eng)
-“Anger is an uncivil attempt to make another feel guilty or a cruel way of trying to correct them. It is often mislabeled as discipline but is almost always counterproductive. Therefore the scriptural warning: “Husbands, love your wives, and be not bitter against them,” and “fathers provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged” (Col. 3:19, 21). ” (“Agency and Anger” by Lynn G Robins of the Seventy, General Conference April 1998, https://www.lds.org/general-conference/1998/04/agency-and-anger?lang=eng)
-“Physical abuse is anger gone berserk and is never justified and always unrighteous. ” (“Agency and Anger” by Lynn G Robins of the Seventy, General Conference April 1998, https://www.lds.org/general-conference/1998/04/agency-and-anger?lang=eng)
-“Nor can becoming angry be justified. In Matthew 5, verse 22, the Lord says: “But I say unto you, That whosoever is angry with his brother without a cause shall be in danger of the judgment” (emphasis added). How interesting that the phrase “without a cause” is not found in the inspired Joseph Smith Translation (see Matt. 5:24), nor in the 3 Nephi 12:22 [3 Ne. 12:22] version. When the Lord eliminates the phrase “without a cause,” He leaves us without an excuse. “But this is my doctrine, that such things should be done away” (3 Ne. 11:30). We can “do away” with anger, for He has so taught and commanded us. ” (“Agency and Anger” by Lynn G Robins of the Seventy, General Conference April 1998, https://www.lds.org/general-conference/1998/04/agency-and-anger?lang=eng)
-“When he missed an easy shot, he became angry and stomped and whined. The coach walked over to him and said, “You pull a stunt like that again and you’ll never play for my team” (23). ” (“Agency and Anger” by Lynn G Robins of the Seventy, General Conference April 1998, https://www.lds.org/general-conference/1998/04/agency-and-anger?lang=eng)
-“In the Joseph Smith Translation of Ephesians 4:26 [Eph. 4:26], Paul asks the question, “Can ye be angry, and not sin?” The Lord is very clear on this issue: “He that hath the spirit of contention is not of me, but is of the devil, who is the father of contention, and he stirreth up the hearts of men to contend with anger, one with another. “Behold, this is not my doctrine, to stir up the hearts of men with anger, one against another; but this is my doctrine, that such things should be done away” (3 Ne. 11:29–30). This doctrine or command from the Lord presupposes agency and is an appeal to the conscious mind to make a decision. The Lord expects us to make the choice not to become angry. ” (“Agency and Anger” by Lynn G Robins of the Seventy, General Conference April 1998, https://www.lds.org/general-conference/1998/04/agency-and-anger?lang=eng)
-“May we make a conscious decision, each time such a decision must be made, to refrain from anger and to leave unsaid the harsh and hurtful things we may be tempted to say.” (“School Thy Feelings, O My Brother” by Thomas S Monson, General Conference Oct. 2009, https://www.lds.org/general-conference/2009/10/school-thy-feelings-o-my-brother?lang=eng)
-“Apropos are the words of the poet John Greenleaf Whittier: “Of all sad words of tongue or pen, the saddest are these: ‘It might have been!’ (“Maud Muller,” The Complete Poetical Works of John Greenleaf Whittier(1876), 206.)”” (“School Thy Feelings, O My Brother” by Thomas S Monson, General Conference Oct. 2009, https://www.lds.org/general-conference/2009/10/school-thy-feelings-o-my-brother?lang=eng)
-““Anger doesn’t solve anything. It builds nothing, but it can destroy everything.” (Lawrence Douglas Wilder, quoted in “Early Hardships Shaped Candidates,” Deseret News, Dec. 7, 1991, A2.)” (“School Thy Feelings, O My Brother” by Thomas S Monson, General Conference Oct. 2009, https://www.lds.org/general-conference/2009/10/school-thy-feelings-o-my-brother?lang=eng)
-“School thy feelings, O my brother;
Train thy warm, impulsive soul.
Do not its emotions smother,
But let wisdom’s voice control.
School thy feelings; there is power
In the cool, collected mind.
Passion shatters reason’s tower,
Makes the clearest vision blind.” “School Thy Feelings,” Hymns, no. 336
-“The story is told that reporters were interviewing a man on his birthday. He had reached an advanced age. They asked him how he had done it. He replied, “When my wife and I were married we determined that if we ever got in a quarrel one of us would leave the house. I attribute my longevity to the fact that I have breathed good fresh air throughout my married life.”” (“Slow To Anger” by Gordon B Hinckley, General Conference October 2007, https://www.lds.org/general-conference/2007/10/slow-to-anger?lang=eng)
-“Anger may be justified in some circumstances. The scriptures tell us that Jesus drove the moneychangers from the temple, saying, “My house shall be called the house of prayer; but ye have made it a den of thieves” (Matthew 21:13). But even this was spoken more as a rebuke than as an outburst of uncontrolled anger.” (“Slow To Anger” by Gordon B Hinckley, General Conference October 2007, https://www.lds.org/general-conference/2007/10/slow-to-anger?lang=eng)
“To be angry is to yield to the influence of Satan. No one can make us angry. It is our choice. If we desire to have a proper spirit with us at all times, we must choose to refrain from becoming angry. I testify that such is possible.” (“School Thy Feelings, O My Brother” by Thomas S Monson, General Conference Oct. 2009, https://www.lds.org/general-conference/2009/10/school-thy-feelings-o-my-brother?lang=eng)
Here we will demonstrate how family creation puts us through the plan of salvation via creation, fall, and atonement.
-Here we define “Family Creation” as 1. marriage and 2. childbearing
-We often speak of the Fall of Adam & Eve as a fall “forward”. It was a good thing. That is a core doctrine of the restored gospel. They were stuck and the only way to advance was to fall forward, and praise God that they did so!
-I speak of another fall forward needed to get us going somewhere in life. That is marriage.
-There are many people whom you could marry, that doesn’t matter so much who you marry, but
what you do after you marry. Most divorces are not from selecting the wrong person, but from
failure to maintain the marriage. Like a car, it needs maintenance.
-Don’t worry about looks too much, in the resurrection will come the beauty, and the greatest beauty comes to the most righteous. Brigham Young taught that those who reach exaltation will become as beautiful as the angels that surround the throne of God.
-Mission Presidents are council ed not to say the 6 months after mission deadline for marriage, but the general council from church leaders on marriage is that it should not be postponed. Your next mission after your church mission is your soul mission, namely to get married.
-I would say it’s a good idea to have a general idea of pulling the trigger on marriage near
the 21st year for men, and near the 19th year for women. The spirit can righteously dictate other things like med school for women etc. etc. but I suggest a regular standard for society to be near these ages unless the person is righteously prompted otherwise. I further suggest delaying family creation is dangerous if done for selfish reasons. Men are the proposers, but women can also help expedite the process by presenting themselves as available. This is not done through immodesty, that is the way of the world to present oneself for mating. The Lords way is by
expressing interest in someone. I for one, generally speaking, married the woman who was most interested in me, who loved me the most. Who manifested trust and willingness to follow my lead. There is not one right person for you to marry, but there is one right way to marry, and that is the Lord’s way in the temple. Usually there are more than one perfectly viable option, leaving you with some room to make your own selection among multiple equally wonderful candidates.
-I also had prayed for a wife and the Lord presented a qualified candidate promptly, so I
proposed, we married a few months later, and we’re happy with many adopted children. I
returned from a mission a few months before my 22nd birthday, engaged before my 22nd birthday, and married shortly after it.
-Your case may be different, but one thing is certain: don’t put restraints on the Lord. Tell
him that you’ll be willing to create a family as soon as viable opportunities present
themselves. Don’t insist to him that you require a certain degree, salary, knowledge base,
position or possession before marriage. Elder Holland and President Hinckley have related that at the time of their marriage they only had a few hundred dollars saved up. If money is your worry, know that married people are wiser with money than single people generally speaking.
-It doesn’t much matter who you marry, marry someone with faith in the Lord and a testimony of the restoration in the Lords house; but other than that, any of Gods children can be
compatible as they live the gospel together. Marriage is like the Fall of Adam: it needs to
happen for things to get going. Sure you won’t pick the perfect person because the perfect
doesn’t exist, but pick and get on with it. Marriage is about building each other. No building will really take place until marriage. Running around playing games with different persons is minimally helpful to yourself or society or the kingdom of God. If you have anxiety about picking the right person so you please the Lord, remember the Lord loves all his children, and you really can’t go wrong so long as you marry a faithful member of the church. Divorces do happen in those marriages, but it is rare. Use your best judgement but don’t damn your progress by remaining in this limbo any longer than reasonable. Remember the Lord doesn’t give a spirit of fear. In the book To The Rescue about President Monson, he submits that he wishes he would have married earlier. He had met Francis years before marrying her and wishes he had proposed earlier. The longer you, Adam and Eve, wait around in Eden, the worse. Everyone and everything is waiting for you to make the fall forward, get this rolling. There are risks, danger, pain, depression, chaos, drama, that’s why we call it the fall. But there is no other way. This is Holiness to the Lord.
-Children didn’t come from natural means and fertility specialists failed us time and again, so we became foster parents. I wish we certified earlier knowing now the great joy it brings, but it wasn’t until about the 3rd year of our marriage that occurred. A few months after
certification, 4 children came to our home whom we adopted. A 5th was adopted a few months
after that a 5th came and was adopted and sealed to us. Generally speaking the foster programs are in dire need for parents, and it’s a wonderful way to attempt living the law of
-Are you ready for Calvary, for Golgotha? Marriage is an atonement, a preparatory atonement
for the greatest atonement we will perform, saving our children. A prophet has said that anyone can go on a mission and preach the gospel, but the true challenge is the raise a righteous family. When Christ was doing his atonement, meaning giving all he could as was required of him, he asked “why?” He said in essence, Father, let this pass if possible. This is harder than I could have ever imagined. Never the less he partook and finished. Even so will you in your sacrifice of giving all you can as asked of you. You are willing, but your flesh is weak. Are you ready for Golgotha? No, you’re not. But you’ll go anyway. Great leaders have taught that showing up is 90% of success, there is some truth to this. Show up and be willing, no matter how daunting. Family creation is both heaven and hell. Like the song of Reaching the Impossible Dream, you must be willing to march through hell for a heavenly cause. It will rake your soul, figuring out at one ment with your spouse and children, but it’s the path to salvation.
-Some call marriage the atonement of men, and this is very true in many ways. However, there
is a critical aspect of marriage which many neglect which is a fundamental part of that
atonement. We refer here to childbearing. Social studies show that married adults are better
off economically, and in every other way. It makes sense to marry when you’re doing pleasure
calculations. Its child bearing when things get more difficult. Child bearing is also where
the greatest heights of pleasure are found, but the pleasure of child rearing is a pearl of
great price hidden in a field, largely unknown and unappreciated by the world, though not
unknown and underappreciated in the Lord’s church.
-For an article suggesting a scenario where even earlier family creation is fathomable, see my article “Early Marriage and Parenthood Theory”
-For an article suggesting that childbearing exponentially increases the service you give to the world and expedites one’s exaltation, see “Exponential Exaltation Theory”
Are our children ours or do we return them to God later? Well, a bit of both. Join me for this thrilling exploration of eternal promises related to parents and their children, including the doctrine of adoption, which sheds more light on the eternal mysteries of who God is and how to become like him!
The meaning of this title is that we inherit children from the Lord and we keep them. They are not just on loan. Our children we raise on earth will be a part of our eternal kingdom. We existed in the beginning like God and may become like him.
topics: intelligence, pre-mortality, spirit creation, body creation, continuation of families, children being your kingdom, blood redemption & blood as symbol of life, Godhead as each being fathers, earthly parents functioning as Holy Ghost representative parents, Jesus Christ as a parent to his people, what it means to join a family, joint-residency in eternal kingdoms of heaven (earthly parents’ kingdom and heavenly parents’ kingdom and Christ’s kingdom), life is a definitive eternal placement test, heavenly and earthly parents give exclusive rewards to their people/children, seek to understand the universe
Exponential Exaltation Theory
Temple Marriage Importance quotes
Children: Why to have lots of them and not wait around about it – quotes and commentary
The Church of the Firstborn
Humankind living before earth (have no beginning have no end), Literal Resurrection, Eternal Family: An 18 Point Response to a non-LDS Christian
Godhead Disgussion, a continuation of Exaltation Theory
The 7 Deadly Heracies by Elder Bruce R McConkie
Godhead, Kingdoms, and Family as Types of Progression
-Subheadings of this article include:
1. OUR CHILDREN WILL CONSTITUTE OUR ETERNAL KINGDOM, EVEN THOUGH THEY ARE HEAVENLY FATHERS SPIRIT CHILDREN
2. ADOPTIVE PARENTS EQUAL TO BIOLOGICAL
3. MANKIND EXISTING IN THE BEGINNING CAUSES HUMAN INDEPENDENCE; GODHEAD AS PARENTS, EARTH PARENTS REPRESENTING HOLY GHOST
4. PARENTING IS AN ATONEMENT, REDEEMING OTHER (CHILDREN) UNTO YOUR ETERNAL KINGDOM, BLOOD AS A SYMBOL FOR LIFE
5. THIS LIFE IS A DEFINITIVE ETERNAL PLACEMENT TEST, WE ALL GET EXACTLY WHAT WE WANT
6. CELESTIAL KINGDOM IS DIFFICULT TO OBTAIN, THE JOINT OPERATION OF JUSTICE AND MERCY DON’T ELIMINATE RIGHTEOUS REQUIREMENTS
7. SACRIFICE ALL BUT DESPAIR NOT FOR YOUR CHILDREN, GODS KINGDOM IS GREAT AT EVERY LEVEL
8. SEEK & FIND UNDERSTANDING OF THE UNIVERSE
-OUR CHILDREN WILL CONSTITUTE OUR ETERNAL KINGDOM, EVEN THOUGH THEY ARE HEAVENLY FATHERS SPIRIT CHILDREN: Prophets have taught that the constituents of Gods kingdom are his children, and that he rules over no person save he is their parent. Our kids even though they are the spirit children of heavenly father they really do contribute to our kingdoms because for one the prophets of said so and for two if ever you suffer for someone it’s like buying them, redeeming them, owning them, another word for redeemer is purchaser. Even if your children elect a kingdom of God other than the Celestial, they will forever serve you because of what you have done for them, and thus build your kingdom. So our children’s spirits were created by Heavenly Father, and they will always belong to his kingdom because he helped them use their spirits and suffered to train them, similarly each person has co-residency in the eternal kingdom of their earthly parents, them having taught their children how to use their bodies, and having suffered to train them. We also belong to the kingdom of Jesus Christ, he having made it possible for us to have resurrected bodies, and having suffered to train us. See footnote 1 for a scripture showing how Jesus becomes one of our parents alongside Heavenly Father & Mother and our earthly father & mother.
Heavenly Father & Mother are our parents in clothing our intelligence in spirits and sacrificing for our behalf (Elder Holland did a question and answer session at the Missionary Training Center while I attended, one of the questions was “Why does God love us?” His answer was that he loves us because he raised us from his knee in premortality. From this answer we get a beautiful picture of each of us having established in pre-mortality an intimate parent child relationship with Heavenly Father),
earthly parents are parents in clothing and otherwise training spirits with bodies and sacrificing on their behalf, Jesus Christ is a parent in enabling us to have resurrected bodies and sacrificing on our behalf.
I’ve heard it said that our children are on loan from Heavenly Father and aren’t our own, this is true in a sense, but in another sense, they are very much ours. We are involved in their creation. Think not that after this mortal life our families will be dissolved, and all will return to equality before God the father. No, but family organization will continue to exist there! See D&C 130:2 says ” And that same sociality which exists among us here will exist among us there, only it will be coupled with eternal glory, which glory we do not now enjoy.” These doctrines are the foundation of the long standing religious biblical and LDS idea that a person should have as many children as they can. Both parents and children benefit. Parents are sealed to their children, that is strong language, the strongest we know of, and it’s the same language we hear when learning about our forever relationship to Christ as his children as mentioned in Mosiah 5.
-ADOPTIVE PARENTS EQUAL TO BIOLOGICAL: What of adoptive parents who didn’t sire their children? They’re still involved in the creation of those children as they are training the children how to use their bodies righteously. Elder Holland in a recent General Conference said women don’t just bear their children once, but throughout the lifespan. Further, Jesus Christ is something of an adoptive parent of ours. We take upon ourselves his name, and by that name will we be called at the last day. His name is the name written on the foreheads of the exalted. Taking upon you his name represents joining his club, his way of life, and in so joining and committing to fidelity to his ways, he offers his club members exclusive access to his grace. The doctrine of being adopted into the House of Israel is well known. The scriptures say many times that Christ came to save not everyone, but to save HIS people. Matt 1:21 says “he shall save his people from their sins.” Mosiah 18:20 reads “Yea, even he commanded them that they should preach nothing save it were repentance and faith on the Lord, who had redeemed his people.” When we raise a child, they take upon them our family name, they walk after our ways, and we offer them exclusive insider access to our wealth, our time, our knowledge, our everything.
I’ve heard recently that the atoms in our bodies replace themselves / exchange every 5 years, so we really do become new people as life goes on.
This reminds me of a story of a centennial reporting on being married to the same man over 60 years. She told the reporter that he was mistaken, she had been married to 5 different men throughout her lifetime, not one. The reporter was embarrassed and thought he was in error coming to see this woman. The woman laughed and said something like, ‘let me clarify. I’ve been married to this same person, but he has changed; he is not the same as he was when I married him.’ This story illustrates the very real ability of being born again.
-MANKIND EXISTING IN THE BEGINNING CAUSES HUMAN INDEPENDENCE;
GODHEAD AS PARENTS,
EARTH PARENTS REPRESENTING HOLY GHOST:
Though we have joint residency in the kingdoms of our several parents (heavenly and earthly), we are independent beings destined for our own kingdoms. The D&C teaches that we also existed in the beginning with God, and will thus have no end, and thus are capable of independence in spite of forever worshiping God and our earthly parents. God consists of the Godhead and Heavenly Mother. Elohim the Hebrew word for God strictly translated means gods, Hebrew scholars suggest that this being used in singular form suggests that Elohim refers to God and his wife, or is representative of the enormity of Gods power.
Holy Ghost as a parent? In a way, earthly parents represent the Holy Ghost to their children, witnessing of God to their children. This completes the divine parent’s analogy: Heavenly Father & Mother are your parents, Jesus Christ is your parent, and your earthly parents by being filled with the Holy Ghost are your parents also.
See footnote 2 for a scripture about intelligences existing before earth and them being taken in by the great one being God.
See footnote 3 for a scripture about us being in the beginning with God.
Here are LDS Prophets teaching about intelligence being clothed with spirits by God in premortality:
Spencer W. Kimball, then a member of the Quorum of the Twelve, said, “Our spirit matter was eternal and co-existent with God, but it was organized into spirit bodies by our Heavenly Father” (Spencer W. Kimball, The Miracle of Forgiveness, p. 5, Salt Lake City, 1969). Marion G. Romney said, “Through that birth process, self-existing intelligence was organized into individual spirit beings” (Ensign 8 [Nov. 1978]:14). Bruce R. McConkie, an apostle, said: “Abraham used the name intelligences to apply to the spirit children of the Eternal Father. The intelligence or spirit element became intelligences after the spirits were born as individual entities (Abr. 3:22-24). Use of this name designates both the primal element from which the spirit offspring were created and also their inherited capacity to grow in grace, knowledge, power, and intelligence itself, until such intelligences, gaining the fulness of all things, become like their Father, the Supreme Intelligence” [Bruce R. McConkie, Mormon Doctrine, p. 387].
-PARENTING IS AN ATONEMENT, REDEEMING OTHER (CHILDREN) UNTO YOUR ETERNAL KINGDOM,
& BLOOD AS A SYMBOL FOR LIFE: the atoning blood of Jesus Christ is Jesus shedding his blood which meant giving his life; and so when we give our life force or energy, our attention and concentration to our children, it’s like giving our blood for them; in the Old Testament and elsewhere we learn that blood is symbolic of life itself, this is why the law of Moses forbid drinking the blood of an animal, that being the life force of the animal. it’s wearing out our lives for them, so this means it’s atoning and redeeming them when it comes to parenting children. The word Redeemer comes from buying back; buying that means you own them (in a sense), and they will be a part of your kingdom even if they rebelled and go to the lower kingdoms of God they will still serve you and minister to you on your behalf and will be a pleasant person for you for eternity because of what you’ve done for them, so you don’t need to spend all your time worrying about whether or not your children will or will not make it to the top kingdom of God, they will make it to a kingdom of God, and they will be happy. All except a few sons of Perdition will make it to one of the kingdoms of God; but wo to them who repent not of their sins and do not therefore qualify for Gods greatest blessings.
Why most everyone going to Gods kingdom:
The idea of suffering in purgatory before going to heaven if you didn’t live quite as you should is actually quite correct, except we know that the candidate will receive a lower eternal inheritance if he repents not, despite suffering in purgatory or what we more perfectly call it, the world of spirits, which is the same thing as hell, the prison section of that world anyway. The only permanent hell is a place called outer darkness, and it is reserved for the Devil and his angels, namely the sons of perdition, those who rejected God in premortality, and those who deeply betray God in this life, and who deeply betrayed him in the prior. Outer Darkness is primarily a place for those who fell in premortality. Those who made it to mortality, they are basically all of them going to some place in the kingdom of God, though not all places in that kingdom are equal. There are 3 levels, and in the highest of those, another 3 sub-levels. To get the highest there, you must marry. D&C 131:1-4 shows this clearly: “1 In the celestial glory there are three heavens or degrees; 2 And in order to obtain the highest, a man must enter into this order of the priesthood [meaning the new and everlasting covenant of marriage]; 3 And if he does not, he cannot obtain it. 4 He may enter into the other, but that is the end of his kingdom; he cannot have an increase.”
The atonement/divine intervention you make for others starts not at marriage, but at childbirth. Women still make the same amount of money being single or married, but when they’re a mother, they don’t make as much money (this study sited in A Case for Marriage by Waite and Gallagher). People often mistake marriage as the critical sacrifice beginning, but according to social science, married persons benefit overall, its when the children come that you see what you’re made of, parenting basically being the school and essence of the Gods. Not that marriage isn’t meaningful, but children make it more meaningful.
-THIS LIFE IS A DEFINITIVE ETERNAL PLACEMENT TEST,
WE ALL GET EXACTLY WHAT WE WANT:
We never despair for anyone because this life is the placement test, this is where we get placed; the test is perfect and the grader is perfect and the results are final; we’ve been preparing for eons and millenniums and even longer in the pre-mortality for this little test; it’s a test it’s like walking into a testing center for an hour or maybe a few hours on an exam; compare our life span to the average academic class test. It’s very short in comparison. Pre-mortality was the class, now mortality is the exam. Post-mortality is the assigned reward based on our performance; in each phase there are varying levels of challenge, success, failure, reward, and punishment. The results are final, everyone gets exactly what they want and more; everyone’s going to be pleased by what they get there, though many are going to be a little ticked off that they didn’t do better. But they’re still going to be really happy about what they receive.
-CELESTIAL KINGDOM IS DIFFICULT TO OBTAIN,
THE JOINT OPERATION OF JUSTICE AND MERCY DON’T ELIMINATE RIGHTEOUS REQUIREMENTS:
Do not think that God owes you a place in the Celestial Kingdom. Do you think just anyone can walk into the Celestial Kingdom or the highest degree thereof? The Lord said narrow is that way, and few find it. God is not so wonderfully merciful that he breaks justice; even mercy has its parameters and bounds which the Lord has set; if the Lord were to cease to represent justice, he would cease to be God. Mercy is a fancy way of saying “justice satisfied by a third party based on the contract between the debtor and redeemer”; the life to come is based on this life, this life is the test, it’s not a, “anything goes” test or it wouldn’t really be a test at all; when go to the next life you will be pleased knowing that even if you didn’t get the best, you got better than you deserve. God is kind, and loads all the mercy into your contract he possibly can. The Mormon/LDS view of heaven is much more wonderful and graceful than the way most of Christendom views it – they say it’s all or nothing, whereas Mormonism says there are multiple levels. The multiple level of heaven doctrine allows for the sort of good person to get a sort of good eternal residence, rather than the sort of good person being stuck forever with the most vile of sinners. Logic screams her approval is this type of eternal reward! Praise God for it! The challenge for us is to work out our salvation and become saints through the atonement of Christ the Lord (Mosiah 3:19) while the day of repentance (this life) is still before us (Alma 34:32-33). Repent “while it is called today” the scripture says; the day of this life is today; today ends either with Christ comes in his glory or when we die, whichever comes first. D&C 64:22-25 says, “22 And after that day, I, the Lord, will not hold any guilty that shall go with an open heart up to the land of Zion; for I, the Lord, require the hearts of the children of men. 23 Behold, now it is called today until the coming of the Son of Man, and verily it is a day of sacrifice, and a day for the tithing of my people; for he that is tithed shall not be burned at his coming. 24 For after today cometh the burning—this is speaking after the manner of the Lord—for verily I say, tomorrow all the proud and they that do wickedly shall be as stubble; and I will burn them up, for I am the Lord of Hosts; and I will not spare any that remain in Babylon. 25 Wherefore, if ye believe me, ye will labor while it is called today.” When today is over, time is up, hand in your tests, watch the grader make his judgement.
Conscience must be obeyed if we hope for salvation; it whispers in the small aspects of daily living; Elder Christofferson etc. says conscience is another way of saying the Light of Christ which everyone is born with. If we take upon ourselves the name of Christ, we are heeding what the light/voice of Christ directs; if we neglect that whispering, we develop into a creature not known by the name of Christ, and the devil becomes our shepherd (Alma 5:37-41).
-SACRIFICE ALL BUT DESPAIR NOT FOR YOUR CHILDREN,
GODS KINGDOM IS GREAT AT EVERY LEVEL: So while you’re doing everything you can yearning for them praying for them bleeding for them suffering for them even dying for them, doing everything you can for them, do not despair for them, for they will be saved in the kingdom of God even if in one of the lesser kingdoms and they will rejoice and because of what you’ve done for them, they will serve you forever and you will forever be associated with them in some form because of your bonds of love and feelings of love towards them. The rebellious feelings they have will subside to some degree even if they go to a lower Kingdom they still will be intelligent beings in that lower Kingdom and serviceable to you and causing you to be happy.
See footnote 4 for a scripture showing that only marriages by the priesthood (LDS) are lasting in heaven.
-SEEK & FIND UNDERSTANDING OF THE UNIVERSE: It seems that we are all Little Einstein’s wandering around trying to prove our theories, he was obsessed, so must we be… wandering around trying to figure out the universe. As we go through life we do see that the light and understanding which God enfolds us, of this we become enlightened and we are happy; we have peace in life, but if we stop seeking the mysteries of God we will never be happy; if we stop trying to figure out how the world Works, to figure out how the universe works, to figure out how the laws of the justice of God work, all these things that we need to understand perfectly, we are damned. Don’t damn yourself by giving up; Satan loves when we give up because he doesn’t have to work so hard; in pre-mortality Satan got a large following by persuading people that this mortality thing was just too hard, so why even bother if they’re going to fail so hard anyway.
However the truth is that you can look at yourself and be amazed that you are looking at an offering of deity. You may even faint at the sight! You’ve made it this far so you may as well keep going.
Combine temporal excellence with spiritual excellence & you can have excellent blessings and views (this is not to say to be obsessed with money); you must temporally provide and spiritually provide or both will drown.
We must know that we are the best, that is what it means to be a child of God, that we are the best. We keep trying too. A pillar of faith as taught by Joseph Smith is to know you are in line with God’s will. Being in line with God’s will means you are trying. It means you are being productive in some good way. It means you are acting on good impressions with an increasingly high success rate.
Would to God that all were prophets, as Moses said. You see it is open enrollment. There are not a limited number of chairs. 144000 means 12×12, representing infinity, the number 12 being a priesthood number. Come everyone and partake of your nature of being an offspring of God, get the Holy Ghost and marvel daily at the workings of the universe and the operations of the justice of God. It’s not only a possibility but a duty to seek to understand. Cease this seeking and you damn yourself for intelligence is godliness. Elder Holland reminds us that “seek and ye shall find” is one of the most repeated messages of holy writ. But if you cease to serve the poor in your quest for intelligence, you violate an essential law of heaven, and your intelligence will decay from that moment onward, working to your damnation rather than to your salvation.
Orson Pratt spoke on seeking knowledge and understanding of the things of eternity: “Perhaps you may ask me why I dwell on this . . . subject. In answer, why did the Lord dwell upon it forty-two years ago, if he did not want us, in some measure, to understand it? Would he speak at random? Would he give a revelation without expecting that the people would even try to understand it? If the Lord wished us to understand something, and condescended to reveal something, why should we . . . think that we are stepping over our bounds in trying to comprehend approximately what the Lord desired us to understand . . . It is an old sectarian whim and notion, to suppose that we must not try to understand revelation….Do not suppose, however, that those first principles [of the gospel] are the only ones to be learned; do not become stereotyped in your feelings, and think that you must always dwell upon them and proceed no further. If there be knowledge concerning the future, . . . the present, . . .[the] past, or any species of knowledge that would be beneficial to the mind of man, let us seek it; and that which we cannot obtain by using the light which God has placed within us, by using our reasoning powers, by reading books, or by human wisdom alone, let us seek to a higher source—to that Being who is filled with knowledge, and who has given laws to all things and who, in his wisdom, goodness, justice and mercy, controls all things according to their capacity, and according to the various spheres and conditions in which they are placed.” (Orson Pratt, March 14, 1875, Salt Lake City, 16th Ward, reported by David W. Evans)
On the same account, “It is impossible for a man to be saved in ignorance.” (D&C 131:6)
-These footnote scriptures will greatly help one to understand the foundations which we have built upon in this article, particularly helpful to the non-LDS or recently LDS or lifetime LDS reader who needs some brushing up on the doctrines of becoming children of Christ, premortal intelligences, intelligences existing in the beginning with God as co-independent units, and the need for an LDS marriage to access one’s own eternal kingdom, including forever keeping both one’s spouse and children:
Footnote 1: a scripture showing how Jesus becomes one of our parents alongside Heavenly Father & Mother and our earthly father & mother:
Mosiah 5:7, 9, 10, 12 illustrates the reality of being adopted into the family of Christ: “7 And now, because of the covenant which ye have made ye shall be called the children of Christ, his sons, and his daughters; for behold, this day he hath spiritually begotten you; for ye say that your hearts are changed through faith on his name; therefore, ye are born of him and have become his sons and his daughters….9 And it shall come to pass that whosoever doeth this shall be found at the right hand of God, for he shall know the name by which he is called; for he shall be called by the name of Christ. 10 And now it shall come to pass, that whosoever shall not take upon him the name of Christ must be called by some other name; therefore, he findeth himself on the left hand of God. …12 I say unto you, I would that ye should remember to retain the name written always in your hearts, that ye are not found on the left hand of God, but that ye hear and know the voice by which ye shall be called, and also, the name by which he shall call you.”
Footnote 2: a scripture about intelligences existing before earth and them being taken in by the great one being God:
Abraham 3:18-27: “…as, also, if there be two spirits, and one shall be more intelligent than the other, yet these two spirits, notwithstanding one is more intelligent than the other, have no beginning; they existed before, they shall have no end, they shall exist after, for they are gnolaum, or eternal. 19 And the Lord said unto me: These two facts do exist, that there are two spirits, one being more intelligent than the other; there shall be another more intelligent than they; I am the Lord thy God, I am more intelligent than they all. 20 The Lord thy God sent his angel to deliver thee from the hands of the priest of Elkenah. 21 I dwell in the midst of them all; I now, therefore, have come down unto thee to declare unto thee the works which my hands have made, wherein my wisdom excelleth them all, for I rule in the heavens above, and in the earth beneath, in all wisdom and prudence, over all the intelligences thine eyes have seen from the beginning; I came down in the beginning in the midst of all the intelligences thou hast seen. 22 Now the Lord had shown unto me, Abraham, the intelligences that were organized before the world was; and among all these there were many of the noble and great ones; 23 And God saw these souls that they were good, and he stood in the midst of them, and he said: These I will make my rulers; for he stood among those that were spirits, and he saw that they were good; and he said unto me: Abraham, thou art one of them; thou wast chosen before thou wast born. 24 And there stood one among them that was like unto God, and he said unto those who were with him: We will go down, for there is space there, and we will take of these materials, and we will make an earth whereon these may dwell; 25 And we will prove them herewith, to see if they will do all things whatsoever the Lord their God shall command them; 26 And they who keep their first estate shall be added upon; and they who keep not their first estate shall not have glory in the same kingdom with those who keep their first estate; and they who keep their second estate shall have glory added upon their heads for ever and ever. 27 And the Lord said: Whom shall I send? And one answered like unto the Son of Man: Here am I, send me. And another answered and said: Here am I, send me. And the Lord said: I will send the first. 28 And the second was angry, and kept not his first estate; and, at that day, many followed after him.”
Footnote 3: a scripture about us being in the beginning with God:
D&C 93:19-36 teaches us about being co-eternal with God, about existing in the beginning with him, and being independent agents in eternity therefore: “19 I give unto you these sayings that you may understand and know how to worship, and know what you worship, that you may come unto the Father in my name, and in due time receive of his fulness. 20 For if you keep my commandments you shall receive of his fulness, and be glorified in me as I am in the Father; therefore, I say unto you, you shall receive grace for grace. 21 And now, verily I say unto you, I was in the beginning with the Father, and am the Firstborn; 22 And all those who are begotten through me are partakers of the glory of the same, and are the church of the Firstborn. 23 Ye were also in the beginning with the Father; that which is Spirit, even the Spirit of truth; 24 And truth is knowledge of things as they are, and as they were, and as they are to come; 25 And whatsoever is more or less than this is the spirit of that wicked one who was a liar from the beginning. 26 The Spirit of truth is of God. I am the Spirit of truth, and John bore record of me, saying: He received a fulness of truth, yea, even of all truth; 27 And no man receiveth a fulness unless he keepeth his commandments. 28 He that keepeth his commandments receiveth truth and light, until he is glorified in truth and knoweth all things. 29 Man was also in the beginning with God. Intelligence, or the light of truth, was not created or made, neither indeed can be. 30 All truth is independent in that sphere in which God has placed it, to act for itself, as all intelligence also; otherwise there is no existence. 31 Behold, here is the agency of man, and here is the condemnation of man; because that which was from the beginning is plainly manifest unto them, and they receive not the light (I note, condemnation because he knows fully well what he is doing, he has been around as long as anyone! Everyone has always been here are we’re just showing our stuff, putting it on the line, we all know perfectly well what we’re doing in this life, as we’ll recall in the hereafter; yes we need reminding, the prophet’s cry repentance, but those who heed them not never really planned to anyway). 32 And every man whose spirit receiveth not the light is under condemnation. 33 For man is spirit. The elements are eternal, and spirit and element, inseparably connected, receive a fulness of joy; 34 And when separated, man cannot receive a fulness of joy. 35 The elements are the tabernacle of God; yea, man is the tabernacle of God, even temples; and whatsoever temple is defiled, God shall destroy that temple. 36 The glory of God is intelligence, or, in other words, light and truth.”
Footnote 4: a scripture showing that only marriages by the priesthood (LDS) are lasting in heaven, that all contracts not sealed by the Priesthood are void after this life, including non-temple marriages and non-sealed posterity:
D&C 132:4-33: “4 For behold, I reveal unto you a new and an everlasting covenant; and if ye abide not that covenant, then are ye damned; for no one can reject this covenant and be permitted to enter into my glory. 5 For all who will have a blessing at my hands shall abide the law which was appointed for that blessing, and the conditions thereof, as were instituted from before the foundation of the world. 6 And as pertaining to the new and everlasting covenant, it was instituted for the fulness of my glory; and he that receiveth a fulness thereof must and shall abide the law, or he shall be damned, saith the Lord God. 7 And verily I say unto you, that the conditions of this law are these: All covenants, contracts, bonds, obligations, oaths, vows, performances, connections, associations, or expectations, that are not made and entered into and sealed by the Holy Spirit of promise, of him who is anointed, both as well for time and for all eternity, and that too most holy, by revelation and commandment through the medium of mine anointed, whom I have appointed on the earth to hold this power (and I have appointed unto my servant Joseph to hold this power in the last days, and there is never but one on the earth at a time on whom this power and the keys of this priesthood are conferred), are of no efficacy, virtue, or force in and after the resurrection from the dead; for all contracts that are not made unto this end have an end when men are dead. 8 Behold, mine house is a house of order, saith the Lord God, and not a house of confusion. 9 Will I accept of an offering, saith the Lord, that is not made in my name? 10 Or will I receive at your hands that which I have not appointed? 11 And will I appoint unto you, saith the Lord, except it be by law, even as I and my Father ordained unto you, before the world was? 12 I am the Lord thy God; and I give unto you this commandment—that no man shall come unto the Father but by me or by my word, which is my law, saith the Lord. 13 And everything that is in the world, whether it be ordained of men, by thrones, or principalities, or powers, or things of name, whatsoever they may be, that are not by me or by my word, saith the Lord, shall be thrown down, and shall not remain after men are dead, neither in nor after the resurrection, saith the Lord your God. 14 For whatsoever things remain are by me; and whatsoever things are not by me shall be shaken and destroyed. 15 Therefore, if a man marry him a wife in the world, and he marry her not by me nor by my word, and he covenant with her so long as he is in the world and she with him, their covenant and marriage are not of force when they are dead, and when they are out of the world; therefore, they are not bound by any law when they are out of the world. 16 Therefore, when they are out of the world they neither marry nor are given in marriage; but are appointed angels in heaven, which angels are ministering servants, to minister for those who are worthy of a far more, and an exceeding, and an eternal weight of glory. 17 For these angels did not abide my law; therefore, they cannot be enlarged, but remain separately and singly, without exaltation, in their saved condition, to all eternity; and from henceforth are not gods, but are angels of God forever and ever. 18 And again, verily I say unto you, if a man marry a wife, and make a covenant with her for time and for all eternity, if that covenant is not by me or by my word, which is my law, and is not sealed by the Holy Spirit of promise, through him whom I have anointed and appointed unto this power, then it is not valid neither of force when they are out of the world, because they are not joined by me, saith the Lord, neither by my word; when they are out of the world it cannot be received there, because the angels and the gods are appointed there, by whom they cannot pass; they cannot, therefore, inherit my glory; for my house is a house of order, saith the Lord God. 19 And again, verily I say unto you, if a man marry a wife by my word, which is my law, and by the new and everlasting covenant, and it is sealed unto them by the Holy Spirit of promise, by him who is anointed, unto whom I have appointed this power and the keys of this priesthood; and it shall be said unto them—Ye shall come forth in the first resurrection; and if it be after the first resurrection, in the next resurrection; and shall inherit thrones, kingdoms, principalities, and powers, dominions, all heights and depths—then shall it be written in the Lamb’s Book of Life, that he shall commit no murder whereby to shed innocent blood, and if ye abide in my covenant, and commit no murder whereby to shed innocent blood, it shall be done unto them in all things whatsoever my servant hath put upon them, in time, and through all eternity; and shall be of full force when they are out of the world; and they shall pass by the angels, and the gods, which are set there, to their exaltation and glory in all things, as hath been sealed upon their heads, which glory shall be a fulness and a continuation of the seeds forever and ever. 20 Then shall they be gods, because they have no end; therefore shall they be from everlasting to everlasting, because they continue; then shall they be above all, because all things are subject unto them. Then shall they be gods, because they have all power, and the angels are subject unto them. 21 Verily, verily, I say unto you, except ye abide my law ye cannot attain to this glory. 22 For strait is the gate, and narrow the way that leadeth unto the exaltation and continuation of the lives, and few there be that find it, because ye receive me not in the world neither do ye know me. 23 But if ye receive me in the world, then shall ye know me, and shall receive your exaltation; that where I am ye shall be also. 24 This is eternal lives—to know the only wise and true God, and Jesus Christ, whom he hath sent. I am he. Receive ye, therefore, my law. 25 Broad is the gate, and wide the way that leadeth to the deaths; and many there are that go in thereat, because they receive me not, neither do they abide in my law. 26 Verily, verily, I say unto you, if a man marry a wife according to my word, and they are sealed by the Holy Spirit of promise, according to mine appointment, and he or she shall commit any sin or transgression of the new and everlasting covenant whatever, and all manner of blasphemies, and if they commit no murder wherein they shed innocent blood, yet they shall come forth in the first resurrection, and enter into their exaltation; but they shall be destroyed in the flesh, and shall be delivered unto the buffetings of Satan unto the day of redemption, saith the Lord God. 27 The blasphemy against the Holy Ghost, which shall not be forgiven in the world nor out of the world, is in that ye commit murder wherein ye shed innocent blood, and assent unto my death, after ye have received my new and everlasting covenant, saith the Lord God; and he that abideth not this law can in nowise enter into my glory, but shall be damned, saith the Lord. 28 I am the Lord thy God, and will give unto thee the law of my Holy Priesthood, as was ordained by me and my Father before the world was. 29 Abraham received all things, whatsoever he received, by revelation and commandment, by my word, saith the Lord, and hath entered into his exaltation and sitteth upon his throne. 30 Abraham received promises concerning his seed, and of the fruit of his loins—from whose loins ye are, namely, my servant Joseph—which were to continue so long as they were in the world; and as touching Abraham and his seed, out of the world they should continue; both in the world and out of the world should they continue as innumerable as the stars; or, if ye were to count the sand upon the seashore ye could not number them. 31 This promise is yours also, because ye are of Abraham, and the promise was made unto Abraham; and by this law is the continuation of the works of my Father, wherein he glorifieth himself. 32 Go ye, therefore, and do the works of Abraham; enter ye into my law and ye shall be saved. 33 But if ye enter not into my law ye cannot receive the promise of my Father, which he made unto Abraham.”
-New additions to this document not on the audio version:
-“Echoing the words of the revelation, he (Joseph Smith) taught that men and women were co-eternal with God and could become like Him by “going from a small capacity to a great capacity,” until eventually they dwell “in everlasting burnings.” Speaking with revealed assurance, he taught: “The soul, the mind of man, whare did it come from? The learned says God made it in the beginning, but it is not so. I know better. God has told me so.”(“Discourse, 7 April 1844, as Reported by Wilford Woodruff,” 135, 137, josephsmithpapers.org; punctuation modernized.)” (https://history.lds.org/article/man-was-also-in-the-beginning-with-god?lang=eng)
-Gospel doctrine manual: Mankind may in their resurrected state sire spirit children and lead them through experiences similar to those we currently live in
-add some quote examples of prophets teaching that our children build our eternal kingdom
For a converse study about those who don’t remain worthy of eternal parenting and therefore lose their children and future opportunities for more children, see my document “Losing Your Children and Eternal Procreative Power Upon Disobedience”.
Here we will show that obedience results in the eternal loss of both one’s children, and the power to procreate.
-“President Brigham Young explained that our families are not yet ours. The Lord has committed them to us to see how we will treat them. Only if we are faithful will they be given to us forever. What we do on earth determines whether or not we will be worthy to become heavenly parents.“(Gospel Principles [manual, 1997], 231). (From “The Importance of the Family,” by Elder L Tom Perry, Ensign, May 2003, 40)
-“You will clearly perceive, from the revelation which God has given, that you can never obtain a fulness of glory, without being married to a righteous man for time and for all eternity. If you marry a man who receives not the gospel, you lay a foundation for sorrow in this world, besides losing the privilege of enjoying the society of a husband in eternity. You forfeit your right to an endless increase of immortal lives. And even the children which you may be favoured with in this life, will not be entrusted to your charge in eternity, but you will be left in that world without a husband, without a family, without a kingdom, without any means of enlarging yourselves, being subject to the principalities and powers who are counted worthy of families, and kingdoms, and thrones, and the increase of dominions forever. To them you will be servants and angels—that is, provided that your conduct should be such as to secure this measure of glory. Can it be possible that any females, after knowing these things, will suffer themselves to keep company with persons out of this Church? It matters not how great the morality of such persons may be, nor how kind they may be to you, they are not numbered with the people of God; they are not in the way of salvation, they cannot save themselves nor their families, and after what God has revealed upon this subject, you cannot be justified, for one moment, in keeping their company. It would be infinitely better for you to suffer poverty and tribulation with the people of God, than to place yourselves under the power of those who will not embrace the great truth of heaven. By marrying an unbeliever, you place yourselves in open disobedience to the command of God requiring his people to gather together. Do you expect to be saved in direct violation of the command of heaven?” (Elder Orson Pratt, Millennial Star, XV: 584).
– “The power of procreation is spiritually significant. Misuse of this power subverts the purposes of the Father’s plan and of our mortal existence. Our Heavenly Father and His Beloved Son are creators and have entrusted each of us with a portion of Their creative power. Specific guidelines for the proper use of the ability to create life are vital elements in the Father’s plan. How we feel about and use that supernal power will determine in large measure our happiness in mortality and our destiny in eternity.” (We Believe in Being Chaste, By Elder David A. Bednar Of the Quorum of the Twelve Apostles; https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/general-conference/2013/04/we-believe-in-being-chaste?lang=eng)
-“Modern revelation sets forth the high destiny of those who are sealed for everlasting companionship. They will be given opportunity for a greater use of their powers. That means progress. They will attain more readily to their place in the presence of the Lord; they will increase more rapidly in every divine power; they will approach more nearly to the likeness of God; they will more completely realize their divine destiny. And this progress is not delayed until life after death. It begins here, today, for those who yield obedience to the law.” ( John A. Widtsoe, Evidences and Reconciliations (Salt Lake City: Bookcraft, 1960), 300.)
-“1 In the celestial glory there are three heavens or degrees; 2 And in order to obtain the highest, a man must enter into this border of the priesthood [meaning the new and everlasting covenant of marriage]; 3 And if he does not, he cannot obtain it. 4 He may enter into the other, but that is the end of his kingdom; he cannot have an increase.” (D&C 131:1-4)
-“14 ¶ For the kingdom of heaven is as a man travelling into a far country, who called his own servants, and delivered unto them his goods. 15 And unto one he gave five talents, to another two, and to another one; to every man according to his several ability; and straightway took his journey. 16 Then he that had received the five talents went and traded with the same, and made them other five talents. 17 And likewise he that had received two, he also gained other two. 18 But he that had received one went and digged in the earth, and hid his lord’s money. 19 After a long time the lord of those servants cometh, and reckoneth with them. 20 And so he that had received five talents came and brought other five talents, saying, Lord, thou deliveredst unto me five talents: behold, I have gained beside them five talents more. 21 His lord said unto him, Well done, thou good and faithful servant: thou hast been faithful over a few things, I will make thee ruler over many things: enter thou into the joy of thy lord. 22 He also that had received two talents came and said, Lord, thou deliveredst unto me two talents: behold, I have gained two other talents beside them. 23 His lord said unto him, Well done, good and faithful servant; thou hast been faithful over a few things, I will make thee ruler over many things: enter thou into the joy of thy lord. 24 Then he which had received the one talent came and said, Lord, I knew thee that thou art an hard man, reaping where thou hast not sown, and gathering where thou hast not strawed: 25 And I was afraid, and went and hid thy talent in the earth: lo, there thou hast that is thine. 26 His lord answered and said unto him, Thou wicked and slothful servant, thou knewest that I reap where I sowed not, and gather where I have not strawed: 27 Thou oughtest therefore to have put my money to the exchangers, and then at my coming I should have received mine own with usury. 28 Take therefore the talent from him, and give it unto him which hath ten talents. 29 For unto every one that hath shall be given, and he shall have abundance: but from him that hath not shall be taken away even that which he hath. 30 And cast ye the unprofitable servant into outer darkness: there shall be weeping and gnashing of teeth.” (Matt. 25:14-30)
-“And they that will harden their hearts, to them is given the lesser portion of the word until they know nothing concerning his mysteries; and then they are taken captive by the devil, and led by his will down to destruction. Now this is what is meant by the chains of hell.” (Alma 12:11)
-Parenting is the opportunity to see how we would do if we were exalted; parenting is the stuff of exaltation; God himself asks that we call him “father”. God has an endless posterity, that is a key factor in his status of Godhood. He told Abraham that he would have access to the endless seed, and this has been reiterated in modern revelation in the D&C, at general conferences of the latter-day saints, etc. Why would someone not obeying God be entrusted with such a power and privilege? The blessing of the righteous is having eternal families. Why would we assume that the wicked would enjoy having an eternal family? Only in sealed families faithful to their covenants do we hear the message that the parent posterity relationship will continue in the hereafter. Your children will be removed from you and planted in another family where they can embrace the blessings of eternal life if you do not afford them that privilege yourselves.
-It is commonly taught in the church that aborted babies will needs be reared to marutiry during the Millennium, and therefore parents will have the blessing of bringing as many of these into their family as they wish. ‘How many children do you want?’ they ask. We answer, ‘Can you number the stars in the sky?’ May we keep our covenants so that these our precious ones with us may remain. Not only is the eternal equation of families based largely on the acts of the parents, but family scientists are showing that the behavior of the parent, more so than the behavior of the child, is the greatest predictive factor in child development.
For a converse study about being worthy to remain a parent forever to your current and future children, see my article “Children are an Heritage (Inheritance) of (from) the Lord: What and Why is a Parent Here and in Eternity”
Q&A On Exalted Persons being served by their children, and The Eternal Ownership of a Parent to its Child
These are questions from various readers and brief responses with links to further reading.
Why do you say children will serve their parents in eternity? (Referring to document “Children an inheritance from the Lord http://richardsonstudies.com/2018/02/12/children-heritage-inheritance-lord-parent-eternity/)
Perhaps the chief way they will serve us is by bringing us joy in the fruits of their labors, and knowing that we played a part in enabling them for their success. I could point this out a bit more in my writing, thanks. http://richardsonstudies.com/…/parenthood-eternal…/ this speaks of God’s glory being his children (Mosiah 8:15) and parenthood being a code word for exaltation. http://richardsonstudies.com/…/22/gospel-creation-theory/ this is about how humans not just God, have vast power to contribute to the salvation or damnation of other humans. http://richardsonstudies.com/…/20/essential-foot-soldier/ this is more about how to be a parent is to be a God, including going through what look like small roles today which will be exchanged for what are obvious large roles ‘tomorrow’. http://richardsonstudies.com/…/principles-priority…/ this is about family roles of marriage and parenthood being analogous to creation fall and atonement.
Does our ‘keeping’ our children forever make them less of God’s children, prying them away from God for ourselves? (Referring to document “Children an inheritance from the Lord http://richardsonstudies.com/2018/02/12/children-heritage-inheritance-lord-parent-eternity/)
Does Jesus pry us from Heavenly Father by making us his children? Clearly, he has become one of our parents (Mosiah 5:7, see also “sons and daughters of God” in the topical guide https://www.lds.org/scriptures/tg/sons-and-daughters-of-god?lang=eng).
The idea is that we can be essentially adopted into several groups. Heavenly Father’s kingdom, Jesus Christ’s kingdom, our parents’ kingdom (if they were righteous), and build our own kingdom (if we are righteous). There is no prying involved, perhaps unless you let the Devil adopt you, another Book of Mormon doctrine…. http://richardsonstudies.com/…/parenthood-eternal…/ this speaks of God’s glory being his children (Mosiah 8:15) and parenthood being a code word for exaltation. http://richardsonstudies.com/…/22/gospel-creation-theory/ this is about how humans not just God, have vast power to contribute to the salvation or damnation of other humans. http://richardsonstudies.com/…/20/essential-foot-soldier/ this is more about how to be a parent is to be a God, including going through what look like small roles today which will be exchanged for what are obvious large roles ‘tomorrow’.
Mormon 8:15 defines the glory of God as his covenant people. God is full of glory, having a numerous people, and his glory grows forever, the more people come follow him. He continues to have children. Prophets have taught that He doesn’t rule over anyone save they are his child. That is how heaven works. It’s structured in families, and the grand law of the universe is the never-ending cycle of children becoming parents. Parenthood in this setting is the code word for exaltation. Indeed, parenthood is the eternal fountain of glory!
I submit that the following ideas apply to most situations.
-Two great sins of omission are 1. not having children (such was the first commandment to Adam and Eve) and 2. not taking care of the children you have born.
-A single parent should have their top priority, besides the immediate needs of their children, to be finding another parent for those children, or for finding a spouse with whom they can have children, hence avoiding the top crimes against humanity
-The law of two witnesses requires that there be a mother and a father in a home to establish and execute law. If the children have law, they learn how to live in a society. The only way a society can function is if it has laws which are 1. clearly established and 2. executed according to the established agreement of law.
-Children are subordinate and not able to make law until the age of adult, 18. At that age they do participate. But before children become adults, they are to be ruled by parents. Yes, that ruling is to be benevolent, but it is not to be weak
-Statistically speaking, those children of a one parent household don’t have as great of aspirations in life, they are not as directed, not as successful generally speaking. Some defy the consensus, yes there are some particular who can, but such should not be expected of these children. The children have the RIGHT to a father and a mother, two people living in the same home, whom love each other and the children, whom work together to make laws to govern their children, and work together to calculate and prepare the way for the success of their children.
-When a couple have a child, they are to put aside all differences and stay together for that child. In extreme cases of selfishness, a couple will divorce. Usually both persons have more they could sacrifice to keep the marriage together, but it is true that it’s “very important that the family be right” as President Kimball has said. Both are to speak with each other on what they need to have occur in order to keep the marriage together. Children are ENTITLED to a father and a mother living together loving and guiding them in marriage, this is proclaimed in The Family: A Proclamation To The World issued by Jehovah via the First Presidency of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. So the parents are to 1. have children and 2. to put aside everything that will get in the way of them being able to continue to fulfill their role as father or mother.
-The children who grow up without a father or mother in the home are NEGLECTED according to the Family Proclamation, which claims that they have the RIGHT to being born to a father and mother and raised by them. Some children find ways to be successful despite growing up in single parent homes, but this was never the way it was meant to be by God.
-Will God, up in yonder heaven, rule the lives of the people, causing those children to grow up in single parent homes to have no disadvantage? Is that what the scripture saying that Jehovah will be father to the fatherless? He will care for their eternal salvation, ensuring that they have the opportunities to become mature like He is. But the way that God helps is mostly by teaching his people about how families are designed to be, and he passes that message along. He has told us how the family is to be. When we reject that, we and our children suffer. Our children particularly suffer now, and we whom neglect them, if we don’t suffer now, will pay for the suffering we have caused in the life to come. So does God just take care of our children should we choose to diverse, or our spouse die? No, he expects us to remarry, and give this children what they are entitled to, a mother AND a father. He has declared this his will by the mouth of his servants. What they say is what he says, “as if from mine own mouth it is the same”. So are the children blessed as though they have two parents when they are only raised by one? No. One principal way that God blesses the children is by teaching the parents how to take care of them.
-Gods people have his laws. They are to infiltrate these virtuous teachings into the world primarily by having children, who file into earth, and spread the message of the parents. Hence, the more children you can have, the more you can influence for good. This is why Elder Oaks has answered the question of how many children a couple should have by teaching that as many children as a couple can take care of is how many they should have.
-Exodus 20 verse 5 and 6: “Thou shalt not bow down thyself to them, nor serve them: for I the Lord thy God am a jealous God, visiting the iniquity of the fathers upon the children unto the third and fourth generation of them that hate me;
6 And shewing mercy unto thousands of them that love me, and keep my commandments.” These are directly from the ten commandments which we revere. Just because we believe that the sins of the parent aren’t answerable upon the head of the child (Article of Faith 2), doesn’t mean that children won’t suffer in this life because of the iniquity of their parents. God will not be mocked. Being from a single parent home I can witness that yes, Jesus helps, but also yes, Exodus 20 is the word of God. These are principals of the gospel. Choices have consequences that are painfully real to everyone involved, and with boldness I’ve written this plea that people arise and take more stock in their actions.
Lord, is it I? The Crucible of Fatherhood, the Beauty of Zion over Animal-ism, and the Survival of the Poet in an Economically based society
Here indulge with me in expression, or quickly look the other way oh friend! Perhaps this tale is too scary after all… too foreign to attempt an interpretation. Or better yet, flee, as it appears a “religious” narrative is about to begin, which could not contain anything of beauty or classicism or legitimate thoughtfulness (because anything with the word “Christ” in it must be by an ignoramus bigot so disconnected with reality as to make him an entire stranger to the beauty of expression on so many levels yet unveiled to his existence, right?)! However reader, recognizing the liberal license of these wanderings (though their substance be in many parts found in their casing rather than their substance), I do have some mercy, and I have elected to inform you when you are entering deeper tier of absurdity, as there are 3 such tiers in this narrative. Alas I’ve not shaken you yet so on we begin, if not only on the tips of our toes, with low yet tasty expectations: TIER 1 (the original and core message for which I’ve approached you (here is the first error of the text, the assumption that it will in fact be read); these tiers (now tears?) being a playful (yet appropriate and delicious) elongation of what was originally merely the following concept of tier 1):
I see even now in the beginning of being a father, that I must be pulled back time and time again, from falls into idleness, of not doing the whole duty. How quickly I turn away! Will ye also leave? Lord, is it I? I must heed the pulls of Christ on me which would cause me to stand again and again. Indeed I say, it is staggering. Most staggering, more so than I thought possible. Right when I catch the wave I’m hit by another which bashes me down onto the turf. I must battle to come to my senses fast enough to not drown in the awful tide. But lo, the God of heaven is there, and reveals the order that can be born from the disorder; or rather, that shows the deeper order which is hidden by the disorder. Avas, the strange power of Christ to accomplish the impossible! Shall we shame it, or call it unreal? No, but let us build a building on top of it. It is the sure foundation! The unseen is the true. The hope is the power. Shall we doubt, or leave the task? Get thee behind me Satan. I am wont to swim in deep waters.
TIER 2 (still a tier, though not as compelling as tier 1; tier 1 was sincere, tier 2 is thoughtful, tier 3 is lamentable though exists nonetheless, the author getting some rare pleasure out of it and thinking it not a crime to spindle on a bit in these, the recesses of the night; all this said, reader, I inform you that tiers 2 and 3 do continue in the theme to some degree of that tier 1, from which you already have an ill or pleasant taste – so you’ll either cease here, or hold my hand a little longer into another forest where we address ethics in another field, tier 1 parading parenthood and the Christ/power/emulation therewith, these perhaps lingering on about economy and poetry, if the latter still holds place in our vocabulary that is; this tier will also derive meaning for actions expressed in tier 1, however incomprehensible to the outsider looking in):
My species is called humankind, and in its victory, refuses the delights of the animal kingdom. It rather prizes the higher which come with the higher. It doesn’t relinquish hope of the ideal in exchange for purchase of the comforts of Babylon. It needn’t afford such a purchase. Why? This gets into the long term but the short term too… for one thing, Zion is beauty, and we refuse the path resulting in “sitting on the ground” in “baldness”. We are a proud people, but not in ourselves, in the collective vision of Zion that we must build up – we are proud of our King Jesus Christ, and could care less about the other kingdoms, their puny walls not built to last the storm. So I conclude my rant with the forbidding of pity, yet the license and use of indulgence of expression in the company of my friends. So laugh quietly should that be your reaction, yes, smile behind your hand good sir… let it suffice that the road I wander may be paradise to me. Or perhaps your quest has a similar feeling! My hat doubly then off to you. We now part with each with happiness to our several roads. Above all, don’t try and stop me!
TEIR 3 (we’re/me’re starting to wonder if this should be penned at all, yet our curiosity has gotten the better of us/me): Let the poet live, stone him not! Alas this is his fear, that economics will be shoved down his throat in the midst of an otherwise pleasant beautiful day. He attends to his duties of course, that is the theme of the lecture is it not? He struggles but, in the end, takes well care to all needs. But it’s not needs that he is worried about. It’s not needs that he thinks about while throwing his spade into the earth again and again. So when the sun goes down, think it not a crime for him to reflect upon the day during his supernal, however short, leisure. This stays off the pains like a drug that gives rather than takes. Now alas I truly must go, I’ve risked time long enough, as that, “time” is the track and measure… and even if you endite me by my tale itself, I flee, I flee! Not much you can do about that… What a splendid independence! Now don’t worry I’m not going anywhere or doing anything stranger than usual. I’m speaking in metaphor, indulging in fiction as an art, or perhaps just asking from a break from THE ECONOMIC SOCIETY of precision and order, derivatives of success! Doubtless the author is looking forward to nay-sayings of the skeptics, and otherwise dismissal of his work as ridiculous, all of this being critical aspects of this excitement. He just didn’t know when to quit did he? Yes, I must be going now, for some reason or the other. Demosthenes tells me there’s quite a nice barrel to roll back and forth across the street over there (lest we be accused of idleness) so here we go… [Exient (“exits”), the lad whom purchased cheer in a strange store on the other side of the valley, the one whom insists on continuing to the death in the delicious ignorance of his own strangeness] [reader scratches the head and goes on with his life, however, perhaps, perhaps in some remote region of the subconscious only daring a toe to pierce into waking cognition, and I reemphasize “perhaps”, remembering…] THE END
Concept from “Arguing with Idiots” by Glen Beck about why good things happen to bad people.
Psychologists are telling us that a nanny parent leads to an unhappy child and incapable adult. The reason God allows bad things to happen to good people like wars starvation etc. all the bad, is because he is not a nanny parent. He knows that the implications of not allowing that stuff to happen are worse than the implications of stopping it all from happening. He allows everyone freedom, and that means some suffering, but it also means an opportunity for joy and growth. It’s unfortunate when governments don’t understand this and make laws governing every aspect of our morality. We can’t just legalize something because it’s for the greater good. Forcing broccoli at each meal would be for the greater good, etc., but that doesn’t mean we do it, because an even greater good is freedom. -Glen Beck, “Arguing with Idiots”
Furthermore, positive parenting means allowing natural consequences do most of the teaching when it comes to disciplining negative behaviors. Some people’s behaviors are so bad that it has a wake effect, damaging even innocent people. The challenge of a good person is to be good even though the bad people are hurting them.
All of this said, we do know that we can and should have the Holy Ghost as our constant companion. The choice is ours, the price is worthiness. But this companionship does not eliminate the need for strong personal decision making, standing on one’s own two feet, pulling up one’s self by the boot straps, etc.
Topics: homemaking, gender roles, joy, feast, meat, parenting, marriage
Housekeeping should be lively, energetic, clean and with food prepared when father comes home, all within the ability of mother. The food need not be extravagant, like the women in old Israel, let them simply make some bread every day, perhaps with a little jam; meat was not eaten except on days of festivals and feasts. When all members of family are home at last in the evening of the day, there is time for joyful celebration. This celebration need not be lavish or overbearing, but it can be handsome in its modesty, and satiable in its orderliness. Father by his toil all the day long has provided for the feast and other needs and wants. Mother by her toil has presented the feast and good fortune in a way that pleases the heart and encourages the soul. For mother, having children is a shift of leaving the world of workforce, into the world of home place. One mother says, “I have no time to clean I am too busy caring for the children”. I say, that those priorities are incorrect. The mother should love the husband as well as love the children. Don’t neglect the husband at expense of the children. The time at home is not just for playing with children and memorizing poetry, nor merely for formal schooling or other needed pursuits, it’s for teaching them how to take care of a house so they in turn can do so while raising their children. All education and recreation is good, but if the nucleus, the maintained home, is not kept well, then the entire system collapses, and where there should have been joy, there is dismay. Failure where there could have been success. Mother may find her hands full with merely chasing after the children and keeping them safe from fires and other dangers, as well as picking up after them. But in time, mother and father have worked together to teach the children that they ought not be a great burden upon the family, and that they should care to themselves in all able matters. If progress is absent in this matter, more family counsel is to be taken, and the matter not left where it stands, constantly afflicting mother from such irresponsibility. One mother says, “I have no time to care for the home as I am busy caring for the children.” But the caring for the home is caring for the children. Teach the children to clean the home. Maintain the hope so the soul of the father does not become depressed at the dismay and chaos. Father cannot maintain the workplace as well as the home. Nor can mother. One must take one charge, the other the other. The mother doesn’t tend to the house once she is done with the children, the maintaining of the house is the very way she does take care of the children. She fosters an environment where the kiddos can teach themselves, and have fun on their own imagination, and learn to contribute to a family by helping in the maintenance of the home. The home is the temple of the family. For the spirit to teach and direct and sweeten and heal all things, it must be maintained. To have an unkept home is to convey a message that the family is not important. The mother must care to not spend too much time playing with the children at the expense of the management of the home. The mother’s task is not easy, nor is the fathers. But the tasks are manageable, and rewarding, and worth the effort. The benefit exceeds the cost. The ability exceeds the inability. The soul is quietly seated in comfort and able to maintain peace. For the father, the majority of the day is spent earning dollars for his family. He tries to find something tolerable in this field, lest he become depressed and unable to proceed. For the mother, the majority of the day is spent tending to the home, and assuring it is well kept. This is the place she raises the children, and is the very arena of her genius. Here she will teach the children all the needed skills of life, and participate with them in the discoveries of humanity which thrill the soul and inspire the being. She will divulge her own methods in how she executes these things, so that her soul does not become depressed, and her tasks not exceed her strength. But succeed she must, just as the father. Should the father fail to bring the needed income for a family, though he be a wise philosopher and a kindly chap, he has failed his family, and does them less good than he ought. Likewise for the mother, though she teach the child all manner of learning and frugality in every decent kind, charm, talent, beauty, should she do these things at the expense of the management of the home, her children will grow up with incorrect understandings of reality, and will fail. Father and mother help each other, but the roles of one cannot be replaced by the other. The father is more stern in his demeanor, he is more capable of physical labor and other traits which enable him to provide. Mother is more gentle, and persuasive – her role in the home is one that no man could parallel even with the best of his efforts. The biological foundations for father and mother did not evolve in science’s generations, they were appointed from the beginning. Though there be challenges unique to each family, the tasks of father and the tasks of mother can be carried out with success. When father is unable to provide in a certain job he may prefer more than others, it is his duty as a noble man sealed to his family to put aside that position, and execute the alternative which will meet the family needs. Likewise for mother – she may desire the child to have the finest education, and the most intensive studies, or the deepest talent in artistry. But should these things be so complex, these sports or classes or whatever they be – that they take time needed for the fulfilled of the other duties of the management of the home such as cleaning and cooking and beautifying the home according to a wholesome environment, then she must re-prioritize and place more focus on the centrality of the home environment as the location for the execution for all needful growth of the child. Not only the children, but father depend on mother for these things. She is in a sense, the nucleus of the home, more crucial than any other member on accounts of nurturing and encouragement. Father takes lead in finance and protection of the family, though when these duties are satisfied, he will turn his attention to the comforting of his family. He loves them and wants them happy, but they cannot be without his doing his duty toward them. Mother loves the family and wants them to prosper with her as she enjoys their company above that of the kings of the earth, but their company will not be so delightful nor productive with the home they daily reunion in at odds. Father nor children expect mother to maintain a perfect home with all desired comforts, neither may mother and children expect father to provide so handsomely that their toils will all cease. But father mother and children rely on each other for a continual improving of the situation of the family, and a minimum level of performance in order for the family to continue on in fluidity. Despite the challenges inevitable to come in family life, mother and father and child can have confidence that they will have splendid success in thriving at their duties and pleasures all pertaining to this life which is appointed them to have joy. Father mother and child need beware to avoid extracurricular, pleasurable hobbies, church service, and community service, which gets in the way of their fulfillment of their duties at home. If one is struggling in their realm, the other may come and help. All help each other when possible, but the divergent interests of one can cripple the function of the whole. Family may even call on extended family for help, but not when much of their time is being devoted to extra-family service projects or recreation. Those who are loved at church or community but neglect the decency and thriving of their home should reconsider that family is their main pursuit, the most eternal aspect of their lives. Church and community, those other areas of interest, will prosper best when the platform of the home and it’s duties are being attended to. When family is put first above all other interests, more energy is alive in all members of the family, and all they do throughout the day will be more pleasant and useful both to them, and the rest of society at large. What if a woman wants to be in business or professions of some other types? Well, let her do it. But don’t let these things hinder you from your most important work of parenting. Good for you ye mothers like Phyllis Schlafly, mother of 9 and constitutional lawyer, head of the Eagle Forum defending Constitutional principals in current politics. Well to you mothers of this type who contribute while not diminishing your family to do so. What of the mother whose only focus is her children? It’s a fool who calls such a person less important. Indeed, mothering is the most important object on this planet, and bears more sway accordingly. Does a mother need to have 9 children to get to heaven? No. But she does need to recall the law of consecration, that all of her time and efforts, are to be dedicated toward building the kingdom of God, with particular attention to the direction of the prophets. Father also recalls the law of consecration, and puts aside his selfish pursuits in order to provide for an increasingly larger family. I am the youngest of 8, let’s not be so silly as to say “x number is the limit!” for would you limit me my friend? My words echo across time from voices yet unborn. Do you love your child? Imagine life without it. Such it is for every less child we chose to have. Are not humans as the gods, with potential to become like them? Do not think for a second that God will not multiply your capacity to love as more children come into the home. Rather, you like God in whose image and likeness you are created, can have infinite love for every child that comes to you.
In dating one should choose someone who represents the peak of human morality.
When a person chooses someone of high values, it means they themselves have high values.
When there is a divorce, it means one could not morally remain connected to someone with such different values they themselves had.
The ability to maintain a marriage is the capstone, it is to show that greatness can exponentially multiply and grow neverendingly. This is seen in the combined power of the parents , and in their progeny (unless for some outlier reason they cannot have children by any method; and if money is the limitation, their chief duty becomes the pursuit of sufficient money). The progeny are the parent’s expression of forever power. The parents create people like themselves. Only a just person can desire to have many children, for if one’s values are just, so will be those of their children (generally speaking; for example, 2/3 of God’s children chose to come to earth instead of choosing to follow Satan, and gaining 2/3 was worth the loss of 1/3; it is always better to ha e loved and lost than to never have loved at all) , and they will thus flood the earth for generations with justice. If they are unjust, they will know it, and they will not dare infiltrate the world in mass with their corrupt philosophies, knowing deep down that to put that on society would be an exponential evil, just as the righteous family giving many children to the world would equal exponential good. Having children intentionally is a bold act, it is the final statement of moral reason, it says that you are ready to make your mark on the world for generations. Some are so paranoid of making their mark on the world that they put off child baring until they are too old to even have children, and thus they have cast no vote at all, and any outcome of the civilizations of earth are their fault just as much as the fault of those who voted evil. To refuse to vote is to vote for evil. By the fear of their procrastination, by the mistaken idea that they had all the time on the world to make up their mind and get serious and start to participate in the war of morals, they have rendered themselves mere cannon-fotter and guilty. To be righteous means that you attempt to do good things even when there is a real risk of failure.
Make no mistake, deliberate childbearing is the great cast of the die, it is the great act of humanity. It is the expression of everything you represent. It is the reflection if our measuring rod, as we cast away the bad we have seen in life and adhere to the good and seem to pass on that good to the child, giving them the advantage of your intelligence.
It thus follows that whom you chose to marry to enjoy and parent with you is of utmost importance, but what is even more important than basic selection is what is done after the selection. Maintaining love, building something together, these are the keys. This changes the parameters of how you make your choice. Now you see you’re not looking for a spouse with just good looks, you’re not seeking a spouse who is just smart or likes you or has some feelings of faith similar to yours, you are looking for someone who loves life, who loves god, who is brave and willing to stand up in the war of morals. You want someone who is willing to stand up, willing follow you into the battlefield when the cause is just. You want someone who is obsessed with being happy, including the happiness which is only accessible in living the gospel of Jesus Christ.
You should set your happiness above all other priorities, meaning that if someone cannot deliver to you eternal happiness, you should run from them, no matter what sort of alms they beg of you. You yourself are of such great worth that to cheat yourself eternal joy would be the greatest robbery ever. You say you want to reward God by serving a needy person? Well that needy person had better not be asking of you to cone down from the fullness of your potential, or your having cone down will negate any good you could have done for the other person, and both you and your spouse will then live with the eternal guilt of having brought someone else less than what they could have had. If you have since enough to understand your full divine potential, doing anything that would jeopardize that fullness of you would ultimately be an act of selfishness. God wants the reward if seeing you exalted, and if you take that from him in the name of serving him, thinking that you should marry someone who can’t bring you exaltation, this becomes debauchery. Any in such case will begin immediately to beg their spouse to take them to them temple , and will make it painfully obvious to the spouse that keeping them out of the temple and exaltation is keeping them from a fullness of joy.
No one person is of more value than the other, so it follows that you yourself have just as much right to be happy as anyone, and thus you should make yourself happy, and we k is the only lasting happiness exists in exaltation aka Godhood, which status God can grant to those who walk the path leading thereto, which path always involves temple ordinances and gospel commandments or guideposts. If you have been pausing to rest in your journey, now is the time to begin again and seek the next post, the next temple ordinance. Joseph Smith said get your temple sealings, then go on and get your calling and election (election to Godhood) made sure (ratified, ascertained, verified, promised, vowed, secured).
-After President Kimball became President of the church he said, “I thought I knew how to pray before, but now I am really learning how to pray.” (“Spencer W. Kimball: A True Disciple of Jesus Christ” by Elder Marvin J Ashton, Gen. Conf. April 1985)
-“Bless our enemies. Help us to understand them, and them to understand us.” This was an oft repeated phrase in President Kimball’s prayers. (“Spencer W. Kimball: A True Disciple of Jesus Christ” by Elder Marvin J Ashton, Gen. Conf. April 1985)
-When I was at the Missionary Training Center (MTC) in Provo Utah, Elder Jeffrey R Holland of the Quorum of the 12 Apostles came to speak to us. He was asked how we get the spirit. He gave 3 councils: 1. Search the scriptures. Search them long and deep. 2. Pray. Pray like you’re banging down the doors to heaven, begging, pleading to be heard, desperately. 3. Once you have the spirit, try to not lose the spirit by offending Him with bad choices.
-An excerpt from my essays “Magnifying Your Calling in the Church & Your Calling in the Gospel” and ” Top 3 Types of Crazy to Look for In Dating “ …when your spouse comes to you and says something like “I feel prompted to do the following thing which is in the parameters of the teachings of the prophets…” you must be open to that. As your spouse approaches you with this type of an idea, you pray about it yourself for confirmation of the idea, wherein you’ll get one of the following answers:
- “it doesn’t matter”
- “not good”
- “you decide, it’ll be fun for all of us to see where this goes”
- “hm… you might not be ready for this… ask later. And in the meantime, READ THOSE SCRIPTURES! PS I love you & I’m proud of you!”
- “I respect you and your wishes. Do it if you wish, much good can come of it, but know that it’s not strictly required of you”
- “Try 7” (God can give us specific answers! He isn’t limited to yes or no questions!)
DISCLAIMER: Though God certainly has a sense of humor, prayer isn’t this casual.
Leading the Children in Prayer:
Direct the children in “extra-long prayers for Sunday” on occasion. Have them kneel and told them to tell God all they were thankful for, then to ask what they want, then when they report being done with these, tell them the next step and so on leading them through the whole process; Tell them to pray to tell God all the things they like, then all the things they don’t like, and to ask Him to help there be less of the things they don’t like, then tell Him who all their friends were, and to ask Him to bless them, then to tell Him who all their enemies were, and to ask Him to bless them all. Then tell God what they want to be when they grow up, and what they don’t want to be. Then they are to pray telling God all of their sins. When they reported being done, ask them to think harder, there are more, and let them kneel a while on that. Tell them to listen to what Heavenly Father has to say to them. They can kneel a while saying nothing only listening. When they report being done with this, they are to kneel and listen longer. When all is finished, they are to close in the name of Jesus Christ, and record their experience and impressions.
-Mother is life, father witnesses and testifies that mothers’ message is life, she is the personification of life.
-Dad points to mom and says, “see? Mom is the ideal. I’ll teach you how to go create more copies of this perfection.” Dad pushes the children beyond the bounds of home for the sole purpose of creating more homes.
-Mom isn’t home because she is less capable than dad, she is in the home because dad basically worships her, and is obsessed with her as the ideal, and tenaciously spends his might to not only protect her, but to get the kids to become like her.
-Enmity was placed between the serpent (the Devil) and woman. Surely one interpretation of this is that women are less likely to be wicked than men! Brigham Young taught a similar doctrine, that seeing a man in a pub was sad, but seeing a woman there was extra sad because such deviance is contrary to the nature of woman.
-We see and know Heavenly Father via Christ, and the appearances of the Father and Son to the prophets whose witness and testimony we surely have. What is the grand mystery of the universe? Its Heavenly Mother. The test in life is to see how closely our lives will mirror Heavenly Mother without seeing her face or hearing her words during life. Life is an EXAM. Closed book. The subject? Perfection, aka Heavenly Mother. Heavenly Father is also perfect.
-Is your inner compass calibrated to coincide with “life”? Eve in Hebrew can be translated to English as “life”. Heavenly Father is a tutor, the traveling missionary. Mother is also a tutor, but has a special added role of nucleus of the universe. Heaven is home, earth is the field of battle. The battle is to see if we will do what we were trained to do in heaven.
-We had a very real existence in heaven before our very real existence on earth. After earth, we will have another very real existence, except this time, we may or may not return to the ‘home’ section of heaven. Only the faithful return home.
-Do we adapt the principles of “life”, or do we reject life, and wander off into pointless existence? It’s not that there are 10 different types of heaven based on 10 different religions/philosophies we could live by. There is 1 heaven, 1 truth, 1 embodiment of life in its fulness. There is more than mere heaven and hell, but the degrees of heaven are spaces on the continuum between heaven and hell. You can place yourself anywhere on the continuum that you wish, this is the kindness of God (God= Heavenly Father + Heavenly Mother), but let there be no mistake, there is only 1 highest heaven. This logic demands the following: If there is a true church (church=organizational embodiment of heaven on earth), there would only be 1 truly true church, because there is only 1 true heaven. False churches may show good and true principles, and represent a location on the continuum of heaven and hell, but only the 1 true church would be the embodiment of the one true heaven. It’s as simple as saying “there is only 1 me. Other people may resemble me, but they are somewhere between the continuum of me, and my opposite.” Therefore God (Christ) said “this is life eternal, to know God”.
-What he (God) was saying is “there’s only 1 set of true principles which will lead you to maximum prosperity. I embody those perfectly. Others can bring you part of the way, but only I am capable of the whole package. I created the earth. I have all power and knowledge. You are my creation. Even the devil is my creation, he chose evil. Do you think my creations have more wisdom than myself, the creator? I invite you to reject the foolish ways of man, and become a God like me in every sense of the word. You are my children, and if you chose to follow me, you can become like me. I will be somewhat distant from you in this life because I’m trying to help you grow. You’re not a spiritual baby anymore but have become spiritually mature, and you can’t grow under my constant care anymore. I do more for you than you know, and watch you closer than you know, but you need some time where you can’t always see and hear me, so you can grow up like me. You won’t see or hear from Heavenly Mother right now, one glimpse of her majesty and one decibel of her immaculate voice would spoil the whole exam, and you would no longer be in a test. We want you to become like us, but this isn’t the type of test in which you memorize quick answers and spew them onto a paper. This is a test where you must be thoroughly tried to measure weather you truly remember the answers. We taught you the answers at home (heaven), now let’s see you perform! I (Heavenly Father) am also perfect like Heavenly Mother, but I’m designed to blend in with you a little more to give you hints while not giving away the answers too publicly. Heavenly Mother is at home, and she radiates the pure principles. I can cloak myself to help you in the test not giving it all away, she remains the standard of truth, the unmovable personification of the true order of the universe, the center of all things. The nucleus of all creation. I am a messenger who helps remind people of her majesty, in other words, I help you remember truth.”
Here we will consider quotes of the prophets regarding the role of women and priesthood. First a thought: The men lay on hands to give priesthood blessings, so do the woman lay on hands to give blessings, as they hold children, husbands, and friends, their gentleness and affection cannot be called anything but a blessing. The woman has been given great power from the Almighty to bless all the people of earth, and she does so constantly. She is guided from on high constantly to make frequent and meaningful ministrations to her fellows. She is often quicker to discern than man when it comes to things of the soul and the work of God.
-Here is a short presentation by an Islamic feminist from a family of 11 children who believes having many siblings is a good thing: “What Islam really says about women | Alaa Murabit” – Ted Talk https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FETryXMpDl8
-“Sisters, I testify that when you stand in front of your heavenly parents in those royal courts on high and look into Her eyes and behold Her countenance, any question you ever had about the role of women in the kingdom will evaporate into the rich celestial air, because at that moment you will see standing directly in front of you, your divine nature and destiny.” (The Divine Nature and Destiny of Women GLENN L. PACE First Quorum of the Seventy; March 6, 2010 • Devotional https://speeches.byu.edu/talks/glenn-l-pace_divine-nature-destiny-women/ )
-Women are endowed with special traits and attributes that come trailing down through eternity from a divine mother. Young women have special God-given feelings about charity, love, and obedience. Coarseness and vulgarity are contrary to their natures. They have a modifying, softening influence on young men. Young women were not foreordained to do what priesthood holders do. Theirs is a sacred, God-given role, and the traits they received from heavenly mother are equally as important as those given to the young men. (Vaughn J. Featherstone, October 1987)
-women use the Priesthood in the temple, and when doing any duty in the church. -Elder Oaks, recent LDS General Conference.
-Man cannot be all he can be without woman, and vice versa. Both are needed to create a child, and similarly both are needed to raise a family in Israel. -Elder Ballard recent BYU Education Week discourse (2013?).
-The wisdom of God is greater than the wisdom of man, so stay in the church despite your questions. Gods thoughts are higher than our thoughts, his ways higher than our ways. (Isaiah)
-“Finally, remember: When we return to our real home, it will be with the “mutual approbation” of those who reign in the “royal courts on high.”… Could such a regal homecoming be possible without the anticipatory arrangements of a Heavenly Mother?” (Neal A. Maxwell, April 1978)
-“[W]hen we sing that doctrinal hymn and anthem of affection, “O My Father,” we get a sense of the ultimate in maternal modesty, of the restrained, queenly elegance of our Heavenly Mother, and knowing how profoundly our mortal mothers have shaped us here, do we suppose her influence on us as individuals to be less if we live so as to return there? (Spencer W. Kimball, April 1978)
-“A recent United States study asserts that women of all faiths “believe more fervently in God” and attend more religious services than men do. “By virtually every measure they are more religious.”“ (Elder Cook, Apr. Conf. Report “LDS Women are Incredible!” https://www.lds.org/general-conference/2011/04/lds-women-are-incredible?lang=eng)
-“Women are daughters of our Heavenly Father, who loves them. Wives are equal to their husbands. Marriage requires a full partnership where wives and husbands work side by side to meet the needs of the family.” (Elder Cook, Apr. Conf. Report “LDS Women are Incredible!” https://www.lds.org/general-conference/2011/04/lds-women-are-incredible?lang=eng; see Handbook 2: Administering the Church (2010), 1.3.1; see also Moses 5:1, 4, 12, 27.)
-“If one had to characterize their [LDS Women] most significant attribute, it would be their unwavering faith in the restored gospel of the Lord Jesus Christ.” (Elder Cook, Apr. Conf. Report “LDS Women are Incredible!” https://www.lds.org/general-conference/2011/04/lds-women-are-incredible?lang=eng)
-“the account of Elizabeth Jackson, whose husband Aaron died after the last crossing of the Platte River with the Martin handcart company. She wrote: “I will not attempt to describe my feelings at finding myself thus left a widow with three children, under such excruciating circumstances. … I believe … that my sufferings for the Gospel’s sake will be sanctified unto me for my good. …“I [appealed] to the Lord, … He who had promised to be a husband to the widow, and a father to the fatherless. I appealed to him and he came to my aid.” Elizabeth said she was writing the history on behalf of those who passed through like scenes with the hope that posterity would be willing to suffer and sacrifice all things for the kingdom of God. I believe the women of the Church today meet that challenge and are every bit as strong and faithful.” (Elder Cook, Apr. Conf. Report “LDS Women are Incredible!” https://www.lds.org/general-conference/2011/04/lds-women-are-incredible?lang=eng; See “Leaves from the Life of Elizabeth Horrocks Jackson Kingsford,” Utah State Historical Society, Manuscript A 719; in “Remembering the Rescue,” Ensign, Aug. 1997, 47.)
-“Whether in the Church or in the home, it is a beautiful thing to see the priesthood and the Relief Society work in perfect harmony. Such a relationship is like a well-tuned orchestra, and the resulting symphony inspires all of us.” (Elder Cook, Apr. Conf. Report “LDS Women are Incredible!” https://www.lds.org/general-conference/2011/04/lds-women-are-incredible?lang=eng)
-“Following the dance, a purse was found with no outside identification. I share with you part of what Sister Monica Sedgwick, the Young Women president in the Laguna Niguel stake, recorded: “We didn’t want to pry; this was someone’s personal stuff! So we gingerly opened it and grabbed the first thing that was on top—hopefully, it would identify her. It did, but in another way—it was a For the Strength of Youth pamphlet. Wow! This told us something about her. Then we reached in for the next item, a little notebook. Surely this would give us answers, but not the kind we were expecting. The first page was a list of favorite scriptures. There were five more pages of carefully written scriptures and personal notes.”
The sisters immediately wanted to meet this stalwart young woman. They returned to that purse to identify its owner. They pulled out some breath mints, soap, lotion, and a brush. I loved their comments: “Oh, good things come out of her mouth; she has clean and soft hands; and she takes care of herself.”
They eagerly awaited the next treasure. Out came a clever little homemade coin purse made from a cardboard juice carton, and there was some money in a zippered pocket. They exclaimed, “Ahh, she’s creative and prepared!” They felt like little children on Christmas morning. What they pulled out next surprised them even more: a recipe for Black Forest chocolate cake and a note to make the cake for a friend’s birthday. They almost screamed, “She’s a HOMEMAKER! Thoughtful and service minded.” Then, yes, finally some identification. The youth leaders said they felt greatly blessed “to observe the quiet example of a young lady living the gospel.”6
This account illustrates the commitment of our young women to Church standards.” (Elder Cook, Apr. Conf. Report “LDS Women are Incredible!” https://www.lds.org/general-conference/2011/04/lds-women-are-incredible?lang=eng; compare Ininn article titled “Why Do We Let Them Dress Like That?” (Wall Street Journal, Mar. 19–20, 2011, C3), a thoughtful Jewish mother advocates for dress standards and modesty and acknowledges the example of Mormon women.)
-“Sisters have key roles in the Church, in family life, and as individuals that are essential in Heavenly Father’s plan. Many of these responsibilities do not provide economic compensation but do provide satisfaction and are eternally significant.” (Elder Cook, Apr. Conf. Report “LDS Women are Incredible!” https://www.lds.org/general-conference/2011/04/lds-women-are-incredible?lang=eng)
-“the most important organization on earth is the family, where “fathers and mothers are… equal partners.”8 Neither one is financially compensated, but the blessings are beyond description.” (Elder Cook, Apr. Conf. Report “LDS Women are Incredible!” https://www.lds.org/general-conference/2011/04/lds-women-are-incredible?lang=eng)
-“from our earliest history both men and women pray, perform the music, give the sermons, and sing in the choir, even in sacrament meeting, our most sacred meeting. The recent highly acclaimed book American Grace reported on women in many faiths. It noted that Latter-day Saint women are unique in being overwhelmingly satisfied with their role in Church leadership.(See Putnam and Campbell, American Grace, 244–45.) Furthermore, Latter-day Saints as a whole, men and women, have the strongest attachment to their faith of any of the religions studied. ( . See Putnam and Campbell, American Grace, 504.)
Our women are not incredible because they have managed to avoid the difficulties of life—quite the opposite. They are incredible because of the way they face the trials of life. Despite the challenges and tests life has to offer—from marriage or lack of marriage, children’s choices, poor health, lack of opportunities, and many other problems—they remain remarkably strong and immovable and true to the faith. Our sisters throughout the Church consistently “succor the weak, lift up the hands which hang down, and strengthen the feeble knees.”(Doctrine and Covenants 81:5; see also Mosiah 4:26.)
One Relief Society president who acknowledged this extraordinary service said, “Even when the sisters serve, they are thinking, ‘If only I could have done more!’” Though they are not perfect and all face individual struggles, their faith in a loving Father in Heaven and the assurance of the atoning sacrifice of the Savior permeates their lives.” (Elder Cook, Apr. Conf. Report “LDS Women are Incredible!” https://www.lds.org/general-conference/2011/04/lds-women-are-incredible?lang=eng)
-“Members need to recognize that the bishop has been instructed to delegate. Members need to sustain and support him as he follows this counsel. This will allow the bishop to spend more time with the youth, young single adults, and his own family. He will delegate other important responsibilities to priesthood leaders, presidents of auxiliaries, and individual men and women. In the Church the role of women in the home is highly respected. (See Emily Matchar, “Why I Can’t Stop Reading Mormon Housewife Blogs,” salon.com/life/feature/2011/01/15/feminist_obsessed_with_mormon_blogs. This self-described feminist and atheist acknowledges this respect and says she is addicted to reading Mormon housewife blogs.)” (Elder Cook, Apr. Conf. Report “LDS Women are Incredible!” https://www.lds.org/general-conference/2011/04/lds-women-are-incredible?lang=eng)
-“His stake Relief Society president, Sister Leinata Va’enuku, asked if it would be appropriate for her to say something. As she spoke, the Spirit confirmed to the president that what she was suggesting was true.” (Elder Cook, Apr. Conf. Report “LDS Women are Incredible!” https://www.lds.org/general-conference/2011/04/lds-women-are-incredible?lang=eng)
-“We recognize that there are enormous forces arrayed against women and families. Recent studies find there is deterioration in devotion to marriage, with a decrease in the number of adults being married. (See D’Vera Cohn and Richard Fry, “Women, Men, and the New Economics of Marriage,” Pew Research Center, Social and Demographic Trends, pewsocialtrends.org. The number of children being born has also decreased significantly in many countries. This has been called the demographic winter.) For some, marriage and family are becoming “a menu choice rather than the central organizing principle of our society.”(“A Troubling Marriage Trend,” Deseret News, Nov.) Women are confronted with many options and need to prayerfully consider the choices they make and how those choices affect the family…I read in an Auckland newspaper of women, not of our faith, struggling with these issues. One mother said she realized that in her case, her choice about whether to work or stay home was about a new carpet and a second car that she didn’t really need. Another woman, however, felt “the biggest enemy of a happy family life was not paid work—it was television.” She said that families are TV rich and family-time poor. (See Simon Collins, “Put Family before Moneymaking Is Message from Festival,” New Zealand Herald, Feb. 1, 2010, A2.)” (Elder Cook, Apr. Conf. Report “LDS Women are Incredible!” https://www.lds.org/general-conference/2011/04/lds-women-are-incredible?lang=eng)
-“two principles that we should always keep in mind. First, no woman should ever feel the need to apologize or feel that her contribution is less significant because she is devoting her primary efforts to raising and nurturing children. Nothing could be more significant in our Father in Heaven’s plan. Second, we should all be careful not to be judgmental or assume that sisters are less valiant if the decision is made to work outside the home. We rarely understand or fully appreciate people’s circumstances. Husbands and wives should prayerfully counsel together, understanding they are accountable to God for their decisions.
You devoted sisters who are single parents for whatever reason, our hearts reach out to you with appreciation. Prophets have made it clear “that many hands stand ready to help you. The Lord is not unmindful of you. Neither is His Church.” (Gordon B. Hinckley, “Women of the Church,” Ensign, Nov. 1996, 69; see also Spencer W. Kimball, “Our Sisters in the Church,” Ensign, Nov. 1979, 48–49.) I would hope that Latter-day Saints would be at the forefront in creating an environment in the workplace that is more receptive and accommodating to both women and men in their responsibilities as parents.” (Elder Cook, Apr. Conf. Report “LDS Women are Incredible!” https://www.lds.org/general-conference/2011/04/lds-women-are-incredible?lang=eng)
-“ text of the hymn “As Sisters in Zion.” She correctly asserts that the “errand of angels is given towomen.”22 This has been described as “nothing less than to do the direct and immediate bidding of our Father in Heaven, and ‘this is a gift that … sisters … claim.’” (Karen Lynn Davidson, Our Latter-Day Hymns: The Stories and the Messages, rev. ed. (2009), 338–39.)” (Elder Cook, Apr. Conf. Report “LDS Women are Incredible!” https://www.lds.org/general-conference/2011/04/lds-women-are-incredible?lang=eng)
-“All Heavenly Father’s sons and daughters are equally blessed as they draw upon the power of the priesthood.” (Daughters In My Kingdom: Ch 8: Blessings of the Priesthood for All: An Inseparable Connection with the Priesthood: https://www.lds.org/relief-society/daughters-in-my-kingdom/manual/blessings-of-the-priesthood-for-all-an-inseparable-connection-with-the-priesthood?lang=eng)
-“In a general conference address, Elder Dallin H. Oaks of the Quorum of the Twelve Apostles taught: “While we sometimes refer to priesthood holders as ‘the priesthood,’ we must never forget that the priesthood is not owned by or embodied in those who hold it. It is held in a sacred trust to be used for the benefit of men, women, and children alike.”2 Elder Oaks then quoted Elder John A. Widtsoe, who also served as a member of the Quorum of the Twelve: “Men have no greater claim than women upon the blessings that issue from the Priesthood and accompany its possession.”3“
-“When we receive the blessings of the priesthood, we are drawing on the power and grace of God…It is significant to me that the women were organized under the authority of the priesthood. We sustain the priesthood and are sustained by its power. The sisters of the Church … treasure our opportunity to be full partakers of the spiritual blessings of the priesthood. Each of us can be directed and blessed in our eternal progression by receiving these blessings. The ordinances, covenants, sealings, and the gift of the Holy Ghost are essential for exaltation. There are a host of individual priesthood blessings as well. Priesthood blessings give us direction; they lift our sights; they encourage and inspire us; they prompt our commitment. We can all be partakers of these spiritual blessings.
” (Daughters In My Kingdom: Ch 8: Blessings of the Priesthood for All: An Inseparable Connection with the Priesthood: https://www.lds.org/relief-society/daughters-in-my-kingdom/manual/blessings-of-the-priesthood-for-all-an-inseparable-connection-with-the-priesthood?lang=eng)
-“Sisters, some will try to persuade you that because you are not ordained to the priesthood, you have been shortchanged. They are simply wrong, and they do not understand the gospel of Jesus Christ. The blessings of the priesthood are available to every righteous man and woman. We may all receive the Holy Ghost, obtain personal revelation, and be endowed in the temple, from which we emerge ‘armed’ with power. The power of the priesthood heals, protects, and inoculates all of the righteous against the powers of darkness. Most significantly, the fulness of the priesthood contained in the highest ordinances of the house of the Lord can be received only by a man and woman together. (Sheri Dew)” (Daughters In My Kingdom: Ch 8: Blessings of the Priesthood for All: An Inseparable Connection with the Priesthood: https://www.lds.org/relief-society/daughters-in-my-kingdom/manual/blessings-of-the-priesthood-for-all-an-inseparable-connection-with-the-priesthood?lang=eng)
-““When you attend the temple and perform the ordinances that pertain to the House of the Lord, certain blessings will come to you. … You will receive the key of the knowledge of God. (SeeD&C 84:19.) You will learn how you can be like Him. Even the power of godliness will be manifest to you. (See D&C 84:20.)”
Ezra Taft Benson, Ensign, Aug. 1985, 10” (Daughters In My Kingdom: Ch 8: Blessings of the Priesthood for All: An Inseparable Connection with the Priesthood: https://www.lds.org/relief-society/daughters-in-my-kingdom/manual/blessings-of-the-priesthood-for-all-an-inseparable-connection-with-the-priesthood?lang=eng)
-“ she told of the blessings she received through the priesthood ordinances of baptism and confirmation:
“If there are any principles which have given me strength, and by which I have learned to live more truly a life of usefulness, it seems to me I could wish to impart this joy and strength to others; to tell them what the Gospel has been and is to me, ever since I embraced it and learned to live by its laws. A fresh revelation of the Spirit day by day, an unveiling of mysteries which before were dark, deep, unexplained and incomprehensible; a most implicit faith in a divine power, in infinite truth emanating from God the Father.
” (Daughters In My Kingdom: Ch 8: Blessings of the Priesthood for All: An Inseparable Connection with the Priesthood: https://www.lds.org/relief-society/daughters-in-my-kingdom/manual/blessings-of-the-priesthood-for-all-an-inseparable-connection-with-the-priesthood?lang=eng)
-“Joseph Smith emphasized that “these signs, such as healing the sick, casting out devils etc. should follow all that believe.”8
Because Latter-day Saint women have received the gift of the Holy Ghost, they can seek and be blessed by spiritual gifts such as “the gift of tongues, prophecy, revelation, visions, healing, interpretation of tongues, and so forth.”9 Throughout the history of the Church, Latter-day Saint women have received gifts of the Spirit and used them to bless their families and others.
” (Daughters In My Kingdom: Ch 8: Blessings of the Priesthood for All: An Inseparable Connection with the Priesthood: https://www.lds.org/relief-society/daughters-in-my-kingdom/manual/blessings-of-the-priesthood-for-all-an-inseparable-connection-with-the-priesthood?lang=eng)
-““I [was] there, all that long, dreadful night, with my dead and my wounded, and none but God as our physician and help.
“Oh my Heavenly Father, I cried, what shall I do? Thou seest my poor wounded boy and knowest my inexperience. Oh Heavenly Father direct me what to do!
“And then I was directed as by a voice speaking to me.”
Amanda was directed to make a lye, or washing solution, from the ashes of their fire to clean the wound. Then she was directed to make a poultice out of cloth and slippery elm to fill the wound. The next day she found some balsam and poured it into the wound to soothe Alma’s pain.
“‘Alma, my child,’ I said, ‘you believe that the Lord made your hip?’
“‘Well, the Lord can make something there in the place of your hip, don’t you believe he can, Alma?’
“‘Do you think that the Lord can, mother?’ inquired the child, in his simplicity.
“‘Yes, my son,’ I replied, ‘he has shown it all to me in a vision.’
“Then I laid him comfortably on his face, and said: ‘Now you lay like that, and don’t move, and the Lord will make you another hip.’
“So Alma laid on his face for five weeks, until he was entirely recovered—a flexible gristle having grown in place of the missing joint and socket, … a marvel to physicians.
“On the day that he walked again I was out of the house fetching a bucket of water, when I heard screams from the children. Running back, in affright, I entered, and there was Alma on the floor, dancing around, and the children screaming in astonishment and joy.”10
-““The only place on earth where we can receive the fulness of the blessings of the priesthood is in the holy temple. That is the only place where, through holy ordinances, we can receive that which will qualify us for exaltation in the celestial kingdom.”
Harold B. Lee
Stand Ye in Holy Places(1974), 117
-“Joseph Smith promised Mercy Fielding Thompson, that the endowment would bring them “out of darkness into marvelous light.”12” (Daughters In My Kingdom: Ch 8: Blessings of the Priesthood for All: An Inseparable Connection with the Priesthood: https://www.lds.org/relief-society/daughters-in-my-kingdom/manual/blessings-of-the-priesthood-for-all-an-inseparable-connection-with-the-priesthood?lang=eng)
-“As the temple neared completion, 36 women were called to serve as temple ordinance workers. Elizabeth Ann Whitney, one of those first ordinance workers, recalled: “I gave myself, my time and attention to that mission. I worked in the Temple every day without cessation until it was closed.”17” (Daughters In My Kingdom: Ch 8: Blessings of the Priesthood for All: An Inseparable Connection with the Priesthood: https://www.lds.org/relief-society/daughters-in-my-kingdom/manual/blessings-of-the-priesthood-for-all-an-inseparable-connection-with-the-priesthood?lang=eng)
-“In the Church today, faithful women and men all over the world continue to serve in the temple and find strength in the blessings that can be received only through temple ordinances. As President Joseph Fielding Smith, the tenth President of the Church, stated, “It is within the privilege of the sisters of this Church to receive exaltation in the kingdom of God and receive authority and power as queens and priestesses.”19” (Daughters In My Kingdom: Ch 8: Blessings of the Priesthood for All: An Inseparable Connection with the Priesthood: https://www.lds.org/relief-society/daughters-in-my-kingdom/manual/blessings-of-the-priesthood-for-all-an-inseparable-connection-with-the-priesthood?lang=eng)
-““Priesthood authority has been restored,” said Elder Russell M. Nelson of the Quorum of the Twelve Apostles, “so that families can be sealed eternally.”20 Elder Richard G. Scott, also of the Quorum of the Twelve, taught: “The family and the home are the foundation of the righteous life. The priesthood is the power and the priesthood line is the means provided by the Lord to support the family.”21 Relief Society assists in this work by helping women and their families live the gospel in such a way that they can receive promised blessings of the priesthood.” (Daughters In My Kingdom: Ch 8: Blessings of the Priesthood for All: An Inseparable Connection with the Priesthood: https://www.lds.org/relief-society/daughters-in-my-kingdom/manual/blessings-of-the-priesthood-for-all-an-inseparable-connection-with-the-priesthood?lang=eng)
-“Elder Dallin H. Oaks of the Quorum of the Twelve Apostles said: “The ultimate and highest expression of womanhood and manhood is in the new and everlasting covenant of marriage between a man and a woman. Only this relationship culminates in exaltation. As the Apostle Paul taught, ‘Neither is the man without the woman, neither the woman without the man, in the Lord.’”22 Ancient scripture confirms this in the accounts of covenant marriages between Abraham and Sarah, Isaac and Rebekah, and Jacob and Rachel. The sealing ordinance binds husband and wife to each other, to their children, and to their Father in Heaven. “Thus,” continued Elder Oaks, “the common objective … in our priesthood quorums and … in our Relief Societies is to bring men and women together in the sacred marriage and family relationships that lead toward eternal life, ‘the greatest of all the gifts of God.’”23” (Daughters In My Kingdom: Ch 8: Blessings of the Priesthood for All: An Inseparable Connection with the Priesthood: https://www.lds.org/relief-society/daughters-in-my-kingdom/manual/blessings-of-the-priesthood-for-all-an-inseparable-connection-with-the-priesthood?lang=eng)
-“When a husband and wife are blessed with the opportunity to be parents, they share a solemn responsibility to help their children understand and receive priesthood ordinances and covenants.24 Our first parents, Adam and Eve, set an example of an interdependent and unified relationship when they taught their children. Elder Bruce R. McConkie of the Quorum of the Twelve Apostles taught:
“It was not Adam alone, who was involved in these things. …
“Eve was an active participant. She heard all that Adam said. She spoke of ‘our transgression,’ of ‘the joy of our redemption,’ of the ‘seed’ they should have together, and of the ‘eternal life’ which could not come to either of them alone, but which is always reserved for a man and a woman together.
“She and Adam both prayed; they both blessed the name of the Lord; they both taught their children; they both received revelation; and the Lord commanded both of them to worship and serve him in the name of Jesus Christ forever.”25
-“ “By divine design, fathers are to preside over their families in love and righteousness and are responsible to provide the necessities of life and protection for their families. Mothers are primarily responsible for the nurture of their children. In these sacred responsibilities, fathers and mothers are obligated to help one another as equal partners. Disability, death, or other circumstances may necessitate individual adaptation. Extended families should lend support when needed.”26” (Daughters In My Kingdom: Ch 8: Blessings of the Priesthood for All: An Inseparable Connection with the Priesthood: https://www.lds.org/relief-society/daughters-in-my-kingdom/manual/blessings-of-the-priesthood-for-all-an-inseparable-connection-with-the-priesthood?lang=eng)