Developmental Outline Sketch for Raising Children

Themes herein are early autonomy via accountability, home education, empowerment with adult roles / responsibility, attention to family creation, vocation, independence, & respect. Use revelation from God to you to fine tune your personal developmental family outline.

 

  1. Introduction
    1. The children need to know what blessings and expectations we have in store for them. This will result in:
      1. Patience
        1. obedience
      2. Hope
        1. obedience
  • psychological peace/adjustment/satisfaction
    1. obedience
    2. altruism
      1. exaltation
    3. joy
      1. obedience
    4. Herein are duties for both the children and parents.
      1. The children owe it to the parents to strive for these goals
      2. The parents owe it to the children to help them strive for these goals
    5. Age 6-8
      1. Academic
        1. Reading
        2. Writing
  • Basic math
  1. Vocational
    1. Proficiency in house chores
    2. Clean room maintained without reminders
  2. Age 8-12
    1. Dishwashing independence
    2. Learn language of the spirit
    3. Academic
      1. Intro to dance types
      2. Intro to instruments
  • Intro to sciences
  1. Intro to literature types
  2. Intro to writing
  3. Intro to languages
  • Intro to algebra
  • Intro to Physical Education
    1. Intro to Sports
      1. Football, basketball, baseball, soccer, skateboarding, gymnastics, track/field …
      2. Enables kinesthetic learning and social preparation
    2. Distance and Sprint Running required
    3. Fitness Standards to be determined
      1. Pushups
      2. Sit-ups
      3. Pullups
      4. Mile time
    4. Age 12-16
      1. Theme: Self Discovery & Altruism
      2. Laptop
        1. Organize school work
        2. Collect special items
  • Write
  1. Internet as parents dictate
  2. Restrictions if abused / zombie
  1. Temple baptisms
    1. Monthly temple baptisms minimal
    2. Weekly temple baptisms where possible
      1. Recall Don Parry knew a young woman who weekly went to temple, she shined
    3. Academic
      1. School focused on topics of interest
      2. Prep for SAT/ACT
  • 4 years until High School Diploma, translates to beginning 9th grade related studies
  1. School Subjects
    1. Music
      1. At least 1 instrument
        1. Flute, violin, piano, clarinet, saxophone, harp, trumpet, trombone, drums, guitar, …
      2. Music theory & composition
      3. vocals
    2. dance
      1. at least 1 type
      2. No Babylon
      3. Folk, tap, square, swing, ballroom, Irish, …
    3. foreign language
      1. at least 1
      2. ASL, Spanish, French, Hebrew, Greek, Egyptian, Latin, Chinese, Russian, …
    4. Math
      1. Advanced algebra
    5. Physical Education
      1. Proficiency in all sports
        1. Focus on 1 or 2
      2. Fitness Standards to be determined
        1. Pushups
        2. Sit-ups
  • Pullups
  1. Mile time
  2. 3-mile time
  3. 500-meter time
  • 100-meter time
  1. BMI
  1. Drama, Theatre
  2. Literature
  3. Computers
    1. Electronics
    2. Keyboarding
    3. Word processing
    4. Internet Safety
    5. Social Media
    6. Programming
  4. Chemistry
    1. Elements
    2. Balancing equations
  5. Physics
    1. Astronomy
    2. Basics
  6. Biology
    1. Photosynthesis
    2. Human anatomy
    3. Ecosystems
    4. microbiology
  7. English
    1. Poetry readings and composition
    2. Grammar
    3. penmanship
    4. spelling
    5. vocabulary
  8. Government, History, Geography
    1. US
      1. Presidents
      2. Current politics
  • Founding documents & figures
    1. Memorize preamble
    2. Federalism
      1. Checks and balances
    3. Bill of rights
  1. States
  1. World
    1. Country geography
    2. Political systems in countries
  • World leaders
  1. Ancient history
  2. Modern history
  1. Participation in government
  2. Current events
    1. News
    2. Movements
  3. economics
  1. Finance
    1. Planning
    2. Budget
  2. Art
    1. Creation
    2. History
    3. Eras
  3. Subjects of choice
    1. e.. Aviation, mechanics, cars, zoology, veterinarian, medical, scouting, psychology/therapy, parenting, nutrition, culinary, military, EMT, business, …
  4. Vocational Preparation
    1. Career planning
    2. Babysitting
  • Housekeeping proficiency
  1. Gardening proficiency
  1. Gospel Scholarship
    1. Proficiency in all gospel principles
    2. Regular rigorous personal study of the scriptures
  2. Social
    1. At least 1 team sport enrollment
  3. Age 16-18
    1. Theme: Preparation for adulthood
      1. Major increase in trust and responsibility
    2. Cell phone
      1. Turn in at 10pm
      2. Restrictions if abused / zombie
    3. Academic
      1. High School Diploma Acquired
      2. Begin College Associates studies
    4. Dating
      1. Schedule
        1. At least semi-weekly
        2. standard 1/week
        3. once accomplished other duties, free time use for extra dating
      2. formats
        1. Usually with groups
        2. different candidates
        3. only active LDS candidates
  • purposes
    1. learn strengths and weaknesses of various personalities
    2. learn chastity
    3. learn to value marriage, to not postpone it
    4. joy
    5. need to get out there, time to start leaving home regularly
  1. post-date debriefing interviews
    1. complete transparency with parents
    2. analyze spiritual character of candidates
    3. analyze personal feelings
    4. analyze events of date
  2. Car
    1. Enables the date
    2. Increases trust
  • Supports in running errands
  1. Each child needs their own car
    1. Dramatically increases
      1. Responsibility
      2. trust of parents
      3. joy
      4. personal power
      5. self esteem
      6. dating power
      7. ability to support parents via errands etc.
    2. They pay all expenses
  2. Car ownership is a duty, not optional
    1. Mandatory for development
    2. Living in [a rural area, as is healthy for families] particularly necessitates vehicle
  3. Job
    1. Job is a duty, not optional
      1. Mandatory for development
    2. Enables the car which enables the date
  • Enables money to fund dates
  1. Also enables making payments on a loan from a bank (not from parents)
  2. Teaches tithing
  3. Teaches budgeting
  • Teaches savings
    1. Date account
    2. Mission account
    3. College account
    4. Savings account
    5. Free spending “allowance” account
  • Job can’t be before 16 because I’m not going to drive them to work
  1. Gospel Scholarship
    1. Studies based in mission preparation
      1. PMG
      2. Memorization
      3. Teaching Role Play
      4. Community outreach
      5. Social Media proselyting
    2. Age 18-20
      1. Obtain College Associates Degree
      2. Boys
        1. Mission
      3. Girls
        1. Pursue Bachelor’s Degree or Mission
        2. Serious dating -> marriage -> children
  • Apply for scholarships
  1. Move out
    1. Live at home option (discouraged)
      1. Only for online bachelor’s degree pursuit
      2. Pay average (not advantaged) rent: $300/mo.
      3. Buy own food (separate fridge)
      4. Mirror apartment living in every way possible
      5. No curfews, etc.
      6. All babysitting is paid
    2. Age 20-22
      1. Boys
        1. Serious dating -> marriage -> children
        2. College Bachelor studies
  • Full time job
  1. Apply for scholarships
  2. Move out
    1. Live at home option (highly discouraged)
      1. Only for online bachelor’s degree pursuit
      2. Pay average (not advantaged) rent: $300/mo.
      3. Buy own food (separate fridge)
      4. Mirror apartment living in every way possible
      5. No curfews, etc.
      6. All babysitting is paid
    2. Age 22-24
      1. Live at hope option expires
        1. Exception:
          1. Show satisfactory progress in university studies with set graduation date
          2. Show satisfactory in all other developmental areas
        2. Age 24 +
          1. Live at home option expires, no exceptions
          2. Come see us at least once a month
          3. Call mom once a week for her sake

 

 

 

 

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